My OperaHiding our feelings - Essay
Tuesday, October 13, 2009 4:56:56 AM
Should a person keep things to his own chest alone? The way I see it, concealing feelings and suppressing emotions stem from several reasons and may lead to adverse consequences.
First of all, let's take into account some justifications behind such a mindset.
Some people tend to develop a mentally strong outward personality. They are absolutely convinced that they hold full control of what is going on and that they should never get cold feet confronting even the toughest nut to crack. These persons seemingly try to give people the impression that they are very confident and strong-willed. Why? The clue may lie in their formative years, during which they gain first-hand experience coping with difficulties. Take this for example: a 6-year-old girl was left all by herself to make her way to school after merely one time accompanied by her brother. This experience taught her to fend for herself and as time wore on, she became a strong-willed and confident person who is not afraid of whatever stares her in the face.
Still, come people mask what they feel fundamentally owing to a lack of trust in others. This lack of trust could result from their early days' experience with extreme disappointment and deceit. A burnt child dreads the fire. Their for, he should approach all acquaintances in reservation and keep them at arms' length. The best instances will be parental back-going on promises and breaking up of romantic relationships. If someone falls for tricks and cheats once too often, they incline towards a retreat into their own shells. The aforementioned girl also belongs in this category. After her first love left her for her closest friend, she no longer placed her trust in any other person.
Some choose not to exhibit their emotions for fear of arousing negative sentiments in others. In other words, they don't want put other people on edge. It's also in this list that the girl's name is put down. She often cares about other people and won't let them lose sleep over her problems. She refuses even to talk to her boy friend about what is on her mind. She has his best interests at heart. This is understandable for she possesses an overpowering sense of independence. All she needs is time to think and to let her hair down and to yield the best resolute to all woes.
In a nutshell, hiding feelings is shared among those who prefer to be a strong-willed and confident person in others' eyes, who do not place their trust in anyone, and who choose not to disturb others.
However, does it really do the trick? Hiding feelings and suppressing emotions may be of great help for the time being, but in long run pose substantial adverse consequences.
Take that girl for example again. She does not enjoy sharing her mind with others as she hates it when people feel sorry for her. She stands the ground that "I can do it alone!". So, this could be very helpful, for this enhances her personality. But if she keeps depressing everything, danger looms large. Everybody knows pretty well that if we press balloon down, it will break eventually. Emotions may also explode in the same way. And when this happens...
First of all, let's take into account some justifications behind such a mindset.
Some people tend to develop a mentally strong outward personality. They are absolutely convinced that they hold full control of what is going on and that they should never get cold feet confronting even the toughest nut to crack. These persons seemingly try to give people the impression that they are very confident and strong-willed. Why? The clue may lie in their formative years, during which they gain first-hand experience coping with difficulties. Take this for example: a 6-year-old girl was left all by herself to make her way to school after merely one time accompanied by her brother. This experience taught her to fend for herself and as time wore on, she became a strong-willed and confident person who is not afraid of whatever stares her in the face.
Still, come people mask what they feel fundamentally owing to a lack of trust in others. This lack of trust could result from their early days' experience with extreme disappointment and deceit. A burnt child dreads the fire. Their for, he should approach all acquaintances in reservation and keep them at arms' length. The best instances will be parental back-going on promises and breaking up of romantic relationships. If someone falls for tricks and cheats once too often, they incline towards a retreat into their own shells. The aforementioned girl also belongs in this category. After her first love left her for her closest friend, she no longer placed her trust in any other person.
Some choose not to exhibit their emotions for fear of arousing negative sentiments in others. In other words, they don't want put other people on edge. It's also in this list that the girl's name is put down. She often cares about other people and won't let them lose sleep over her problems. She refuses even to talk to her boy friend about what is on her mind. She has his best interests at heart. This is understandable for she possesses an overpowering sense of independence. All she needs is time to think and to let her hair down and to yield the best resolute to all woes.
In a nutshell, hiding feelings is shared among those who prefer to be a strong-willed and confident person in others' eyes, who do not place their trust in anyone, and who choose not to disturb others.
However, does it really do the trick? Hiding feelings and suppressing emotions may be of great help for the time being, but in long run pose substantial adverse consequences.
Take that girl for example again. She does not enjoy sharing her mind with others as she hates it when people feel sorry for her. She stands the ground that "I can do it alone!". So, this could be very helpful, for this enhances her personality. But if she keeps depressing everything, danger looms large. Everybody knows pretty well that if we press balloon down, it will break eventually. Emotions may also explode in the same way. And when this happens...
