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10 WAYS TO KNOW IF HE IS NOT OR NOT YET THE
RIGHT MAN TO MARRY (From the purpose of
relationships)
1. How often does he say he loves you? This
measures his boldness. If he cannot say it he may not
mean it. He may have a double mind and a double
minded person is unstable; he may flow with the
tides. Only the bold can truly love.
Note: don’t influence him to say it. Let him realize it
himself this is the type of love that will stand the test
of time.
2. Does he suspect you? This measures his
trustworthiness. If he suspects you then you are not
really his treasure and his actions will only be without
faith. Only a limited amount of effort will be directed
to the relationship. Until he makes up his mind he is
not yet ready for marriage. Those that can’t trust
can’t be trusted either.
3. Does he tell lies? This measures his integrity and
his sincerity. Without integrity there is no guarantee
that he will act on what he says, without sincerity
everything about him plus the ‘I love you’ he says is
in doubt.
4. How desperate is he? This measures his faith and
also his strength. Marriage is intended to be till death
and of which various tests and circumstances will
probably arise that will tend to separate the union;
relationships requires faith and hope to thrive
especially when the times are hard and difficult. To
enforce love and truth, to maintain a relationship and
to attain success in marriage involves sacrifices and
sacrifices requires great effort.
5. Does he include you in every matter under the sun?
This measures his level of commitment.
6. Does he find excuses and decline responsibility?
This measures his strength. Run away from the man
that finds excuse for every failure he is a weak man.
Marriage entails a lot of responsibility; therefore
readiness to accept responsibility is mandatory.
7. How open is he, does he listen and discuss with
you? This measures his readiness to make amends. If
he doesn’t like to listen and discuss with you (Out of
the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.) How
can he claim to like you if he doesn’t care to know
what is in your heart? And since relationship requires
self corrections, fine tuning our minds to the ideal
state, he is probably not ready for self corrections and
how can he cope with possible challenges ahead
without presently making adjustments today.
8. Does he forgives every wrong and does he ask for
forgiveness? This measures his humility. Forgiveness
is simply continuity.
Note! You are bound to misunderstand and probably
hurt each other on your journey towards self
realization, so forgiveness is the oil that makes the
wheel turns. Most of us are afraid of confrontation;
this is a sign of a lack of sufficient love or pretense in
our hearts.
WARNING! Never reconcile without words, until
someone recognizes his mistakes and ask for pardon.
Pride must not be allowed to grow in your
relationship.
9. Does he tell anyone who cares to listen about you
and does he tell you everything about his past, future,
vision, mistakes and plans. This measures the level
of his attachment to you.
10. How often does he act before he says or tells you?
(Self control) Then he is a disorganized man, there
should be a form of agreement before every action?
Don’t assume you know or he knows. Discuss it. Don’t
do and say to yourself we will discuss it later, discuss
(plan) first then do later, that’s due process.
Note! You have to protect yourself from any
unwanted contract or covenant.
Do not abuse this guidelines you are free not to
accept them as a standard, you may have your own
ideas about marriage and strategy towards marriage.
By abuse I mean don’t trick or negatively influence
anyone into fitting into the guideline because you feel
you love him, you are only weak and afraid to try.
Work on yourself instead.