Son of Mars

Yesterday, i take too much time to prepare for this conversation so Ii still don't understand how it go to an unexpected way. For preparing, i asked and answered my self expecting question about advantages and disadvantages of my decision, it make me headache. Because i think this conversation would be an argument with some bad words, could be hurt someone, i'm so surprised when they ask me for a help not a demand. They treat me so softly and make me wonder what's behind the scene here? It's not an unexpected result, just the way they did? I cannot explain anything, what's wrong?