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My Family Moves to India

An American family moves to Chennai

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Fit at Forty

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That's my new goal. I'd like to be able to do a family bike trip (several days or a couple of weeks) around Denmark when I turn 40. Shawn says that Denmark has bike roads with stop lights and everything, so it would be very safe and nice to see the country slowly.

With this in mind, I started Jazzercise on Wednesday. WHOOOOPPEEEEEE! I am doing Jazzercise again! I was a regular 9 years ago, exercising 5 hours a week there, but when I got pregnant with J, I had to quit. (Thanks Cris for introducing me to Jazzercise! :smile: Then we moved to a smaller city and there was no Jazzercise. I pined for it for about 5 years, until I got sick, when just fixing dinner became exercise. Amazingly, Chennai has the only Jazzercise in India - and it's held right in the gym at the kid's school!

Sometimes, I just can't believe how lucky I am! :smile: Although it is kind of funny that I had to move halfway around the world to find a Jazzercise class. :smile:

Meanwhile, the week has been good but very busy and eventful. The kids are doing well at school - J likes her new teacher alot, and goes fairly cheerfully even when she has an upset digestive tract. I took her into the doctor on Wednesday because it had been 10 days of on again/off again diarrhea, nausea, and headaches. She got lots of prescriptions - all were for OTC drugs in America - and we have been doing intensive tummy therapy since then. (This involves taking all the medicine on time, striving to keep her hydrated, and getting the lactobacillus capsules into her, so she can build up the good bacteria again.) She is energetic enough and hasn't had a fever for over a week, so the doctor said that she could go to school. J likes her teacher so much, and has made so many new friends, that she was pleased at that.

We will be enrolling her in yoga and art after school, with her best little friend M. That should make school even more fun. So far, she hasn't had any homework other than reading, so I think that a couple of extra curricular activities will not overwhelm her. The birthday parties and playdates have already started - I can see her social calendar is going to be very busy.

L also continues to do well in school. :faint: He has not had ANY hitting or kicking incidents at school at all. I can't hardly believe it. His teacher said that he is doing so well that she may not need an aid for him. We are going to keep him at half days for the first semester (40 days) and then gradually build him up to full days. That way, he will be ready for full-day kindergarten here next year. He has entirely stopped napping, so I think that the afternoon session will be good for him; but his teacher, who is an absolute genius, doesn't want to put too much pressure on him. After talking with her I think she is correct. She is very exacting in her behavioural standards, which he needs, but it is a lot of pressure for him to handle. We are continuing to pursue getting his auditory processing evaluated.

S is working, working, working....at the plant all week this week. When he goes to the plant he has a 4-hour roundtrip commute, which doesn't bother him. (Yikes! I would be crazy.) He says he gets tons done - studies his scriptures, e-mails, phone conferences - he even changes in his car. It's too funny, but so like him; he's the only man I know here that doesn't protest about the awful commute. This month he is going back to Russia for a week; I'm not looking forward to that.

And me? Well, I'm just so happy to be back at Jazzercise. I am making lots of new friends at school, volunteering at J's class, doing the primary music, and running the household. As long as I stay rested, I can handle the daily crisises of the "marble manor". Today was a typical day: the stove wouldn't light when I went to fix breakfast, one of the maids burned her arm badly at home and can't come into work, and the milk bill needs paid.

Dealt with the stove: I checked and we were out of gas (it comes in cylinders), again. We shouldn't be, so I had the driver check the connection....and it seems we have a leak. Apparently the night guards smelled gas. Ergo, we need the gas connection repairman to come out. I call the landlord, sic "sir" (hubby) onto the landlord also, and then have Mr. Fixit take a look at the connections. (Note how I am triple-attacking the problem with no less than three options for a solution; this is an important household management skill here.) Then I concoct a back-up plan: meet S for dinner in the city.

The maid: send driver (the one who is not her friend) out to check on her and see if she actually has a burned arm. (Since her toddler also fell and took out his front teeth, and her other child had a bad ear infection, all in the same week, I'm more than a little suspicious.) I hope she doesn't have a bad burn, but if she doesn't, then she is out of a job.

Milk: count out exact change and send driver to pay bill.

So all of this is becoming second nature. We got some more curtains, which comforts me. About half the house now has curtains. Maybe I will just give up on the other half. No, more likely, I will sew them myself and cut out the trips to the city to look at fabric, the long waits, and the bills. I also need some more lights and bookshelves, but all things in good time.

Well, time to check on the gas issue and decide what to do about dinner.



Ad Nauseum

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Literally. Half the household, if you include the cats, is vomiting. J has had a fever and vomited once (but she made it to the toilet, yay!); all the kittens are vomiting; and I don't feel too great myself. So, it's been a sloooooooow day. We were supposed to go get the kid's physicals done, but we had to postpone it.

J is a lot better tonight though, and two of the three kittens were drinking water when I went to check on them, so looks like things are on the upswing. One kitten still looks very ill, so I tried to get it to a vet - to no avail. I called the closest vet and he said he would call me back when he opened his private practice - after normal business hours; a lot of physicians and professionals do that here - but he never called back. I'm guessing that means that he doesn't think that he can do anything for my poor kitties. Since his first comment was "Oh My God!" when I told him that they were vomiting and had diarrhea, I think that's a good guess.

Seeing the doctor, dentist, and other professionals after hours is very common here. They work in one place - like a government hospital - during the day and then have their own practice at night. It takes a bit of getting used to after you live in the US, where doctors and other professionals keep strict daylight hours.

I'm hitting the downside of culture shock and feeling discouraged about ever getting the house fixed up and interacting successfully with the local tradespeople. (By "successfully" I mean without losing money). I just got my first set of curtains up - only took 4 months - but when I got the bill, my eyes just about popped out! It was $200 above what they quoted me in the store. So, now I have to go back and argue (re: bargain) it down. sigh. Takes too much energy.

Ah well. The good thing is that my driver is still Mr. Fixit - today he mounted the fire alarms that we brought from the US. No small feat, considering that he had never seen one before. Haven't seen any here, so bringing your own is a good idea. Yes, the homes are made of plaster and concrete, so a large house fire is unlikely; but electrical fires are common. I put one in each bedroom and bravely mounted one over the stove. He objected to the one over the stove, but I told him that we'd try it for 2-3 days and then he could move it if it was going off all the time.

So we're all safe from fire here, and going off to bed - here's to a night of no vomiting.....

Whine, Whine, Whine.....

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Yeah, I'm feeling whiney today. S is sick with the stomach flu so we had to cancel our playdate, the curtain people didn't come (they were supposed to hang the curtains in Jessa's room so she can move into it), and I've unpacked files all day long. Filing - one of those thankless tasks that keeps the world organized and running, but that nobody really wants to do. My hands are covered with paper cuts and my floor is covered with piles of papers. To top it off, my sister didn't get the new job that she deserved. Very discouraging.

At least I found the kid's school physical forms and the list of paperwork required to open an Indian bank account. Both matters are becoming more pressing as time slips by.

Maybe tomorrow will be better. Maybe some curtains will come.....maybe S will feel better....maybe my new salwar outfits will be done.....maybe.

Cleaning Up

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This week I've been on a big cleaning and organizing streak. We still are not completely unpacked from the move; still don't have all the electronics set up; and still don't have curtains up :bomb: . This might be in part because I've been spending a lot of time on the car that won't start, the cell phone that went nutso and quit working, and the very slow (as in useless) internet. Also, yesterday, one of the ACs went down (and it's still 36 Celsius here!) Welcome to life in India - constant breakdown is status quo.

In an effort to feel in control of something, I decided to forge ahead on these issues. Also, school starts in two weeks and I want to have time once it starts to focus on it. (Plus I'll be spending half my life in the car, dropping off kids, then.) So, I finished unpacking and organizing the downstairs yesterday, and tackled some parts of the upstairs. I still need to unpack the files and get the kid's computer and VCR/DVD/TV setup organized. We elected to bring both of our American TVs - one has a gadget hooked up to it that allows it to receive and understand Indian TV signals; the other, we are just going to use for the kids to watch American DVDs and VHS tapes.

As far as curtains, today I will make another trip to the curtain maker's (!) - it's an hour each way, so I'm not excited. Neither are the kids. But this time we will be placing the final order for about 1/3 of the house. I chose a new shop to try to get things done faster. My other curtain lady did an excellent job on the rods, but now her shop is calling me all the time saying that their tailor is in the hospital....not good. She was slow enough on the rods; I had hoped for curtains from her before Christmas. sigh. We shall see. At any rate, a personal visit might move things along.

One of the few things that came on time was the cane furniture - they delivered it exactly three days after I ordered it, just as they said they would. Probably because when you have a showroom/office/factory the size of a walk-in closet, it cuts into your profit margin to have a large four-peice seating set cluttering the place up. In fact, I'd bet no one could even get into the store with my set finished.

While I organized, the maids cleaned, and my driver fixed things. Yesterday he put up four curtain rods for me (small ones that I had brought back from the US in my suitcases); fixed a lamp; and he's also spent a ton of time getting the car fixed. Today he's going to put together Levi's mini-trampoline and take a look at the leaking AC unit, plus maybe start on putting together the swing we brought over. He's got his own honey-do list - thank goodness I don't have to rely on S entirely, because he works so much we'd be moving home before things got done.

Today I also need to stop at the local school and see if my maid is lying or not about tuition. She wants me to pay her children's tuition for school - a common request - and one that I've done for other servants. I try to check to see if they are lying about the amount, though, and I also pay it directly to the school - otherwise the maid/cook/whomever just shows up with a new cell phone or sari. Because education and children are so important to me, I have decided that if possible (and if they aren't lying about it), I will pay tuition. And if the money is misused, then hey - I did my best to make the world a better place.

Lastly, I've got to fire the gardener. I had him take out the bin of broken glass yesterday, with the instruction that he was to sell it, not throw it over the wall. Of course he threw it over the wall. So he goes. (Remember, this is the gardener who dug the hole to China, despite repeated requests, in various languages, for him to stop digging.) He's either a little stupid or a lot stubborn.

Speaking of garbage - L worked off his debt to R (see previous post) by cleaning up the beach with me this morning. The beach next to our property usually isn't too bad, by Indian standards - but recently a bunch of flip-flops showed up. They washed up for miles, odd shoes, some nibbled on by fish, some broken, many perfectly whole, but all odd. For some reason, they bother me more than the plastic fishing floats or the peices of net. Walking along the beach looking at them, it feels like someone is missing.....so we cleaned up the section bounded by our property lines. We picked up 8 garbage bags full of non-bio-degradable trash. Two of the guards, curious, came out and wound up helping - one pointed out that the trash would be back in a month (after telling me that a heavy rain would wash it all back in the ocean - to which I replied "Not the shoes".) I told him that was fine, we'd have a clean beach for a month. The other just cheerfully picked up garbage - he even went so far as to pick up the neighbor's pile of dirty diapers. BIG brownie points for him.....DEFINITELY a keeper! :smile: They probably have no idea how many brownie points they get with me when they pick up trash.....:up:

Life Back in India

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We made it home just fine, and even though Lufthansa didn't put any of our 10 bags on our flight, they delivered them to our house by 10 a.m. the next morning. Amazing service.

The curtain rod men came and put up more curtain rods. I believe that I now have all the rods up; I just need the curtains. Maybe before New Year's. Ha ha.

I got most of the suitcases unpacked and then started to feel sickly....and wound up in bed for a couple of days. Yesterday was particularly awful - one of my "crash" days - I just couldn't wake up. I was running a low fever so I guess something was up. :faint: Anyway, I feel alot better today and intend to take it easy for a few days.

The beauty of being sick in India is that you have servants; they create their own problems, but at least when you get out of bed the kitchen is clean and the kids are fed. :D

Of course life in India is never dull; my car decided to have intermittant breakdowns. At first we thought it was the battery, but it seems the consensus now is that it has an electrical short. After several days of a less-than-reliable vehicle and a trip to the repair shop, our driver, Arul (who is currently stranded beside the road waiting for a tow truck), says that we are going to get a loaner and keep it until the old car runs perfectly at the office (Avis) for a few days. So our car will be used to run tourists around and pick up businessmen while we enjoy the loaner.

We've had a few travelling salesmen stop by this week. In the posh areas of the city, it's common for vendors selling everything from eggs to rugs to stop at your house and do a hard sell; but we hardly ever get them out here. However, this week we've seen two: one man selling giant prawns (fresh, too - they were still moving); and another selling artwork. I wound up buying from both of them. The artist had some lovely hand-died batiks that I couldn't resist, and the prawns are a welcome treat.

We also got our shoe cupboards today. That's a minor miracle. I paid too much for them and waited too long (3 months and counting!), but at least the measurements were correct and they fit the space allocated for them perfectly. Now the clutter inside our front door is contained. Yay!

In my lucid moments I've been having a lot of fun creating a curtain to hide the warped boards in the downstairs bathroom. The boards hide the bottom of the sink - kind of a built-in vanity - but they've gotten wet and warped. I asked the landlord to replace them but he didn't; it wasn't a big enough issue to fight over. So I bought some wild and crazy Jacobean floral fabric to jazz the half bath up, and commenced to sew. I'm proud to say that the sewing machine that I carted home in a suitcase works perfectly here! :smile: Yippee! :hat:

What Is Going On

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Not a very original title, but accurate.

School is over as of today. No one is happier than me. I managed to be civil to J's former teacher when I picked her things up, but it was hard.

J & L are running around like wild Indians. J has a distinctive Tamil accent that she uses when she speaks to the Tamil people. It's pretty hilarious.

S took a couple of hours off today and hooked up his plasma TV. That leaves the entertainment room as the single last bastion of complete disaster. sigh. I tried to begin unpacking it today, but I'm so tired.....the kids and I have had sinus infections and colds. Some virus.

My curtain rods are coming next week. Yippee! :smile: Maybe by the time we leave for the US I'll have curtains up. ha ha.

I went light shopping the other day. This involves walking up and down the littered, potholed sidewalks (when there is a sidewalk) from dirty shop to dirty shop, and then fighting off the salesmen who cluster around you like flies to honey. Of course you are supposed to haggle, but I'm usually too tired and in too much of a hurry to put my heart into it. I wound up buying 4 lights, and only got cheated on one of them. The cheating was quite creative - they sold me the light but when we went to pick it up, they wanted me to pay extra for the bulbs. Ha. Good one, guys.

The reason that I had to go light shopping is because I was misinformed about my US lamps working over here. I thought that they worked with only a plug adaptor. Nope. Four thrown breakers and burnt-out bulbs later, I figured out that there must be a bigger problem than I realized. Turns out you have to have them re-wired for 220 volts. Luckily, this is cheaper than buying all new lamps. I found a shop that rewired them for about $10 each - probably another rip off, but like I said, I was in a hurry - and so now I have American lamps with Indian wires.

The nice thing is that I had them re-wire them for a minimum of 100 watts, so at least they give out more light than they used to do.

So, eventually, I won't feel like I live in a dim cave after dark. The lights that came with the house are mounted about 2' from the ceiling - which is about 14' up - and point up, so they don't do much to dispel the gloom. I'm happy to have some better lighting.

The generator and the city electric both went out at the same time today - haven't had no electric at all in a while - and I learned that generators have batteries. Not only that, our generator has an old battery that has to be charged once in a while. Live and learn. Thank goodness for Mr. Fixit.

I visited a good friend here, E, and it was wonderful to compare stories and feelings. So nice to know I'm not the only one! :smile:

Tomorrow we are heading out on a road trip. Yep, we're crazy. We are driving to Bangalore, about 3 or 5 or 7 hours away, depending on which driver you ask. It's India's district conference, so we have church meetings, plus I really want to visit our friends there. I'm very excited, although since I haven't been out in rural India yet, I'm expecting a very different experience.

Should be a good blog entry. :smile:

Bits-N-Peices

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I chose "chocolate" as the color for my text because that's what I feel like eating. :smile:

Some quick updates:

The turkeys are doing good. They enjoy eating tomatos, pineapple, bananas, and cooked rice, but won't touch stale bread. True Indian turkeys.

J has been home from school all week with a head cold/cough/eye infection. Her teacher gives me he** every time I see her (which is unfortunately twice a day) about her attendance. She claims that they do not have J's attendance record from 1st grade, and basically is only concerned about herself. I've gotten pretty fed up with her. I wish I had gone with my gut instinct and withdrawn J from school 5 weeks ago, when the problems with this teacher began. All we've done is created an anxiety trigger about going to school.

On the positive side, J has lost a front tooth and is very proud of herself. She has about 3 more teeth that are loose, so soon she will look like a Jack-O-Lantern. :smile:

L has been doing pretty good, even with S gone for a week. I think that having so many males around really helps him. (OK in the long run it doesn't, as he is probably still confused about who his father is, but it helps me because he is not so wild.) Today, unfortunately, he awoke with the fever/head cold/eye virus that J has had. Yuck. L being L, though, he had pretty much shaken it off by 4 p.m. That kid's immune system is Olympic caliber.

S is in the U.S., doing his thing. Whatever that is. He comes back in about 24 hours, exhausted and incoherent. We wish he was home more, but them's the breaks.

He did sell our house while he was in IL. The closing was yesterday. So we are no longer homeowners. It made me homesick to hear him describe how the peonies were looking good, and the clematis blooming. I am still feeling that the vegetation here is so different.....pretty, but not familiar.

Hopefully, when the weather cools down below 100 F, I can get out and do some gardening. I may have to fight a few guards off but I intend to get my hands dirty. We have already picked the vegetable garden area out and have forced the gardener to put the grass clippings on it, when he bothers to cut the grass.

Meanwhile, since it's too hot to do anything outside, I have been slaving away at the unpacking. I keep opening boxes and finding pleasant surprises, like the bicycle tire pump (which the kids had been asking about for days, as their tires were of course, flat.) Since we had so much stuff in the garage, the labels on the boxes are somewhat misleading - they say "garage" but they actually contain articles for the house. Hence the surprises.

The painters have finished the upstairs den/office area and it looks nice. The master bedroom looks a lot better too. Monday they will do Levi's room (I'm creating an ocean-themed toy room out of his dressing room, complete with glow-in-the-dark stars - can't wait! :smile: Then I'm thinking about taking a break as I am getting tired of monitoring an extra 4 people who don't speak English. They have done a decent job for a pittance of a wage (in US dollars; it's quite generous for India); but you always have to worry about theft, etc. Besides, the only area left to paint is the main living areas, which are interconnected with two three-story cathedral ceilings and a staircase. I have the idea solidified in my mind about what to do with all of that wall space, but it's going to take some time in the tremendously hot paint store to get the colors correct. :no:

I wish that I could get my furniture (shoe cabinets - our front entrance looks like a demented cobbler's shop) and my drapes up, but we're on IST here.....I'm getting pretty impatient though. I went around this week and paid my deposits, hoping that would speed things up. Next week I'm going to start calling them weekly for progress reports. I can't tell if I'm low on the totem pole, too far out, or this is just normal. Both of these shops came highly recommended by other expatriates, but they have both stood me up more than once, and been extremely poky in all of their dealings. So we'll see.

I need to take a day off just for myself, but somehow I just feel so much pressure to get things sorted out that I can't make myself do it. Not a day goes by that someone doesn't ask me for something important and I have no idea where it is......I'm feeling a lot of pressure about this upcoming trip to the US too....I don't want to be reminded that I am a cancer survivor, and the whole thing sounds very tiring. S says that everything is so clean and green and easy in the US that I won't want to come back. :frown: (These comments were meant to be helpful but I didn't find them so at the time, sadly.)

A little bit of this, and a little bit of that.....

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I've been working hard on two fronts: getting the house ready for our stuff, and getting the kids adjusted to their new school.

So far, neither one is coming together very quickly. :wait:

First, school: L is doing well. (Can you believe it???!!) Or at least as well as L ever does. His teacher is awesome. We are talking about holding him back a year to keep him with her, and also because he is so behaviourally behind that his academics suffer. We shall see. He is working hard on making friends and we see definite improvement on that front. :smile:

J. Well, let me say that today I would count my efforts at getting J adjusted to school as a complete failure. She now hides when it is time to get in the car, won't get out of the car, and definitely won't go to her class. I have spent more hours than I care to count sitting outside her classroom in the 110 degree heat with her bawling beside me. (The teacher won't let me in the classroom.) I finally got fed up and now she is staying in her room with no toys all day. Nothing else has worked: lectures, bribery, playdates with friends in her room....she hates her teacher and doesn't feel safe there because her teacher doesn't let her see the nurse, etc. when she says she feels sick. We are not happy with the teacher's non-nurturing attitude either, but there isn't any alternative (no other first grade teacher and no other air conditioned school). :down:

I have a feeling that we need to pull her out and let her adjust more to India, but I'm afraid that it's already too late and she has developed a complex about the school. We shall see.

The heat (like I said, 110 F) and the mild tummy illnesses that we are all experiencing are not helping.

The house: Well, I've tried to get curtains up all week. The fabric is cheap, but the rods are unexpectedly expensive. I've only had one company out for an estimate though; another lady is supposed to come out today. She comes highly recommended and also speaks very good English, so she has two points in her favor.

The curtain thing is a nuisance because we have lots of lovely big windows, and therefore the guards and sundry personnel can see into the house, especially at night. Frankly, I just want the freedom to wander around in my nightie and/or scrub the kitchen floor without being talked about the next day. Not that they say anything to me, but I know that they do talk.

So maybe next week we will get the curtain rods up. I also need a painter, to paint the interior of some fusty old cabinets, and haven't made any progress on that front either.

However, yesterday a man did show up to cut down the dead palm tree and trim the dead leaves out of the other palm trees. Both of our drivers are insistent that the lawn needs mown, which cracks me up since the grass grows in quaint little round clumps, and isn't any more than 6 inches high in any one spot, so it doesn't look like it needs mowed at all to me. Neither one of these guys has ever seen the beautiful thick prairie grass that we grow in the midwest, though. They both say that it needs mown because of "germs" and "mosquitos". Hmmmm. I am trusting them in this because they take good care of us, so we're looking for a lawn mower. Or whatever is the equivalent here (probably a pair of pinking shears or nail clippers, but we'll see.)

Last night I cleaned what is going to be the master bath and the sink fell off the wall, the light fell off the wall, and the shower head is so gunked up with water deposits that it will only squirt sideways. No, I wasn't using a baseball bat. So another call to the landlord. sigh. Still one more bath to go. I am thinking of simply sealing that one off as it smells really bad and we're not sure why. :eek:

But the electric and water have been fairly stable for a week or so now. Of course the internet and phones have been iffy, but hey, I've got my cell. :wink:

Our shipment is supposed to arrive next week. Wow. I can hardly believe it, and have very mixed feelings about it. On the one hand, I want our stuff desperately - especially our own beds. On the other, the house is not as clean or as organized as I'd like - I haven't even unpacked all of our air shipment yet - so I know that once it's filled with boxes and furniture, I'm going to feel even more overwhelmed.

I am definitely looking forward to the cabins this summer.

Gotta run to pick L up -

T