Family Feud
Monday, 24. July 2006, 21:59:00
First, let me vent! I'm a bad speller, I admit it. Since blogging, I've started using the dictionary more and more. I looked up "Feud" because I wanted to spell it "Fued" and it looked funny. I used the Chinese/English English/Chinese dictionary. I was shocked. I didn't realize the word F_ _ _ was in the dictionary. What a way to start my day!!!
Now, on with life.....The girls are fighting more and more. Of course, they're both two years and nine months, two days apart to be exact. We now have two of many things in the house, but I'm trying to teach them both to share. The clincher for me was the empty coke bottle.
We have many bath toys. It took two days for the new child to even venture towards the tub. To entice her, I filled an empty shampoo bottle with water and let her squirt Xiao Qing. Xiao Qing loved it, almost (see photo). Everything was fine. It seemed bath time was about the only time they didn't fight.
Then, I introduced the empty coke bottle. I gave them each one with the label removed. FD2 (2nd Foster Daughter) screamed. Since she only speaks Chinese and the local dialect from her city (which is not our city) it's difficult to know what she wants. Her body language was clearly understandable. She threw her bottle out and wanted Xiao Qing's.
Why? They're both the same. Same shape, same clear color, same plastic material, same red cap. Why?
Simply because it was Xiao Qing's. So I switched. She was happy. Then Xiao Qing screamed. Why? Because FD2 had her bottle! I'll never understand girls or women for that matter.
This is my first experience in raising girls. In my 20's (former life) I had two sons 19 months apart. They shared, loved each other and never fought. I'm hoping after several more weeks these girls will do the same.
**Several have requested a picture of FD2, but I'm not sure who her new parents will be, so I'm waiting to obtain permission. Not everyone is an "open book" like me! I hope you understand. For those of you who have a photo, which I've emailed privately, feel privilaged!!!
Now, on with life.....The girls are fighting more and more. Of course, they're both two years and nine months, two days apart to be exact. We now have two of many things in the house, but I'm trying to teach them both to share. The clincher for me was the empty coke bottle.
We have many bath toys. It took two days for the new child to even venture towards the tub. To entice her, I filled an empty shampoo bottle with water and let her squirt Xiao Qing. Xiao Qing loved it, almost (see photo). Everything was fine. It seemed bath time was about the only time they didn't fight.
Then, I introduced the empty coke bottle. I gave them each one with the label removed. FD2 (2nd Foster Daughter) screamed. Since she only speaks Chinese and the local dialect from her city (which is not our city) it's difficult to know what she wants. Her body language was clearly understandable. She threw her bottle out and wanted Xiao Qing's.
Why? They're both the same. Same shape, same clear color, same plastic material, same red cap. Why?
Simply because it was Xiao Qing's. So I switched. She was happy. Then Xiao Qing screamed. Why? Because FD2 had her bottle! I'll never understand girls or women for that matter.
This is my first experience in raising girls. In my 20's (former life) I had two sons 19 months apart. They shared, loved each other and never fought. I'm hoping after several more weeks these girls will do the same.
**Several have requested a picture of FD2, but I'm not sure who her new parents will be, so I'm waiting to obtain permission. Not everyone is an "open book" like me! I hope you understand. For those of you who have a photo, which I've emailed privately, feel privilaged!!!
WIDGETIZE
dennibrink # 25. July 2006, 02:44
You're my hero! I wish I could do exactly what you are doing. Seriously, why live life so passively and confined in what we are comfortable and familiar with?
I admire your courage to take on a unique challenge that humbles you and through the experiences teaches you what really is important about life.
You are not much older than me and here I am frustrated over such silly little ridiculous things in America with material possessions I am too embarrassed to mention, and you living over in China raising two girls. You give me a lot to think about.
Sincerely,
Dennis
Pam Williams # 25. July 2006, 02:47
One Chinese grandma looked at me with the two girls and asked, "Aren't you always tired"? Answer, "Yes, tired but happy.
When you've had everything, then you discover it all really doesn't matter anyway. It's a shame it takes almost a lifetime to discover it. Pam in Henan
Eliane a/k/a Elly # 26. July 2006, 05:01
My two oldest 19, and 17 are peas in a pod even though they are male and female, respectively.
My youngest, 14, wants to be with them -- I feel so bad for him.
However, now he is taller than everyone in the family; my, how happy he is.
Your sons must take after you and your DH; how nice they always love each other and get along!!
My three all love one another, but, oh my, sometimes....
Anonymous # 8. August 2006, 04:54
I can empathize. DD & DS do the same thing. We've been home two months and they always want what the other has. Congrats on the new addition!