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Starting to talk to someone can be very hard.Someone you've never spoken to before can seem big and scary.Here are ways of getting people talking I figured out.

Be polite
If u want people2 like u and want to get 2 know u,politeness helps a lot. I'm not saying u should suck up 2 them, but treat them with respect.There's a trend for being rude these days that come from movies & TV. It's fun to watch, but that's not how the real world works. When Clint Eastwood is rude & nasty, it's fascinating-when you're rude or nasty, you're just someone who's not worth having anything to do with.Everyone knows what you're supposed to do to be polite-put it in practice and you'll go far with making new friends.

If it's someone you've seen before, say "hello"
It's amazing how many people will be in the same office,school or on the same bus for years & never speak. Simply say "hi" to a person u see regularly & you'll move from being a stranger towards being a friend.

Practice shy confidence
While shyness & confidence are obviously opposites,u can mix them in opening conversation to great effect.Be confident in forcing yourself to speak 2 the person in question, but be shy as in letting them know that u respect them enough to worry about their reply.Most people will either try to bowl the other person with their confidence,thus putting them off,or never speak to them in the 1st place.

The trick is to combine the 2 approaches.Simply speaking up with a quite"How are you?" will break the ice.Then continue with shy respectful conversation.Most people aren't mean enough to reject a politely shy approach.

Ask questions
This is old technique,but works well. As u don't know the person very well, u don't want to pry into anything too personal to begin with.Just keep it friendly and respectful,don't go into interrogation mode. Look for something about them to ask which is likely to receive more than just a yes or no answer - "I like your watch, where did u get it?", "Are u guys busy up there at the moment?", "Do u work in the city?", "Did u watch the tennis last night?".

What u really looking for is something u have in common u can lever a conversation from. Here's example of man starting conversation with woman at work.

Frank: Hi there, how's it going?
Mary: Fine thanks.
Frank: Your team seems pretty busy these days. I've seen u all flashing around like a Mercedes Tail Light.
Mary: Yeah, we've got the auditors in at the moment.
Frank: Oh, I think they're coming our way next. They're being difficult are they?
Mary: u wouldn't believe it. I've been here until eight every night this week.
Frank: That's no good. Any advice for getting ready for them?

Don't worry too much if someone isn't immediately friendly back to u
Everyone gets nervous when talking to someone they don't know well. Sometimes we react badly even if we don't mean to.If someone is a bit blunt with u, acts strangely, or seems disinterested the first couple of times u speak to them, don't worry too much.They're probably just nervous and need to get used to the idea that you're just being friendly. Give them a bit of space and time to think it over and often they'll come around.You'll be surprised how often such people soon earn respect for you when u continue being friendly with them.
Not everyone is interested in being your friend.Some people are never going to be your friend no matter how hard u try.That's just their loss.They probably like that with almost everyone anyway, so don't take it personally.If someone is always rude to u when you're trying 2 be nice, just shrug your shoulders and move on.While it may be tempting 2 get revenge, it often isn't even worth doing so.Rude people usually don't get ahead in their personal relationships.Their nastiness is probably much more damaging to themselves.

Gentleman, too many of us fall prey to the High Maintenance Girl. And too many of us don't see the warning signs until it is, alas, too late and we have been reduced to sniveling, weak, insecure shells of our true, pre-High Maintenance Girl days. To that end, I present to you my list of Top Ten Warning Signs that You're Dating a High Maintenance Girl. Enjoy. And get out while you still can-- denial helps no one.

Number 10: She wears hats (not baseball caps), especially of the wide-brimmed variety. Nothing screams Luvvy from Gilligan's Island like a damn hat-wearing girl.

Number 9: She ties a sweater around her waist. This one is controversial, but more often than not, a girl who tries to hide her big butt with an expensive sweater is high maintenance. See, what you don't know is that she spent at least 45 minutes adjusting that thing to look perfect. And what *she* doesn't know is that it just makes her *** look bigger by drawing attention to it and adding another couple inches.

Number 8: She loves to order wine with dinner. Listen, eating out is expensive enough, I don't need you to add another $36 for a couple ounces of liquid that you'll inevitably complain about. Truth: the happiest alcoholic moments in any guy's life have NEVER involved wine, so we obviously don't need it. The only reason we have it is to pretend to be sophisticated so high maintenance girls can like us. Lame. Super lame.

Number 7: You get dirty looks if your car isn't spotless even a Subaru Distributor Rotor, inside or out. In other words, she's embarrassed to ride with you based on the superficial aspects of your car. I'm a busy man and I park my car outside. Washing it today just gives the bird's a more satisfying target tomorrow. I'll wash it for special events or if I become a road hazard, but anything beyond that is a waste of either time or money, neither of which I have in copious amounts.

Number 6: She comments on what you're wearing-- when you thought what you were wearing was totally snazzy. I'm not talking about the guys who wear threadbare clothing or mismatch colors or whatever-- we need to be called out when we do things like that. I'm talking about you wearing a nicely pressed shirt that you're pretty convinced is cool, and she just crushes it with the ever-familiar "Um, what are you wearing?" or my personal favorite, "Where'd you get that shirt?"

Number 5: You're always late wherever you go, mostly because she takes six and a half frickin' hours to get ready, wherever you go. Worse yet, to you, she looks exactly the same at minute 15 as she does at minute 380. Now watch out, because this one turns passive aggressive quickly. Soon, you'll start to notice that she's *especially* late when you're supposed to go somewhere with your family or your friends. But tread with caution, because if you bring it up, you can expect a royal crushing since she'll get emotional and say 'How dare you! I'm just trying to look good for your friends and family because I want them to like me!' Lose-lose situations are so much fun!

Number 4: Everyone can get away with things, except for you. Her family treats her like crap? She's still their lapdog. Her friends totally stand her up? No biggie. But you, my dear friend, better *always* be *perfect*. If you ever bring this up, wear armor. She will say something about how she holds her boyfriend/husband to a higher standard and then you'll somehow look like a jackass even though you're right.

Number 3: You try to do something nice, and she totally misses the point and finds the one possible thing you didn't do right. Surprise her with breakfast in bed and she'll ***** you out for not making her favorite toast. Get her flowers and she'll make some comment about it being the wrong season for the ones you chose. I don't have to give any more examples, because the sinking feeling in your stomach is providing you with visceral reminders already.

Number 2: You have to constantly worry about her at social events. You can't just walk away and chat with some friends without making sure she knows where you are or comes with you. You're always concerned that she's not having a good time-- because she's not. She won't mix with anyone, and all of her conversations are superficial and your friend's all come away thinking she's cold and/or bitchy. You know the most demeaning part of this situation? You can't even go to the bathroom without telling her, lest she start looking for you and not find you for five minutes. You don't want that to happen as you'll get the royal bitch-out on the car ride home and she'll threaten to not come to events again. You secretly celebrate that option, but can't show it.

Number 1.5 (had to squeeze this one in there): She refuses to drink water that comes from a tap, even if its filtered. This not only demonstrates high levels of maintenance, it shows that she's basically an irrational idiot too.

And the number one sign you're dating a High Maintenance Girl.......

Number 1: She rains on your parade. Not a drizzle either, but Noah's flood. If you're happy, your girl should be happy. If you're happy and instead your girl finds little snide remarks that on the surface seem supportive but over time actually dig at you, you have yourself a high maintenance girl. Want an example?

"Honey I got a raise"

"Great... now you'll never leave that job."

"Umm... thanks, I guess?"

There's more where this came from. I'm your soothsayer, your truth-bearer. I call it like I see it. Shoot me a line if you want to talk.

t is not necessary to go to expensive beauty parlours or buy expensive creams and lotions to acquire a blemish free & clear complexion like buying a part like lexus ls400 radiator for your car. A few homemade remedies are provided below which will serve the purpose equally well. Hope this will benefit the readers.

1. Always wash your face with mild soap so that the pores breathe fresh air. For a clear and attractive skin mix besan, turmeric (haldi), lemon and milk together. Make a paste. Apply it on the face. Let it dry. Wash with clean water. Wipe your face with a soft towel and pat it dry.
2. Rub a rind of lemon over your face if you have an oily skin and this will lessen grease and whiten your complexion.
3. To give velvet smoothness to your skin, just throw in a little starch to the water of our bath.
4. To avoid blemishes, drink first thing every morning a glass of carrot juice.
5. An effective treatment to clear complexions is the mixture of besan with cucumber juice rubbed over the face, neck & arms.
6. Tomatoes cut in half and rubbed over the face are useful for toning up & whitening the skin.
7. An occasional face pack of ice is a good tonic for the complexion.
8. Mixing equal quantities of lime & cucumber juice and applying to the face is also beneficial. It acts as astringent & bleaches the skin.
9. A simple recipe for blemish free skin is as follows:
50 gms channa dal (besan)
10 gms. Methi seeds
2-3 pieces turmeric
Powder the above and store it in a container. Use a little of this powder mixed with milk cream and wash the face daily with this instead of soap.
10. Chop banana skin and prepare a pulp with milk or curd. Apply on face.
11. Apply a mixture of 2 teaspoons of buttermilk & a few drops of almond oil & rose water on face & neck for nearly half an hour. Then wash it off.
12. A mixture of rice flour and milk applied on the face acts as a good facial.
13. A mixture of masuri dal and curds applied on the face for about 20 minutes imparts freshness to the face.