It's my BO, honestly!!!
Wednesday, 23. April 2008, 03:04:51
Hey! I guess it's time to add another blog post since it's been a while, and what can I say except that I'm at another stage of my life. People who know me (or at least catch a glimpse of me while I'm not studying) probably think I'm the most emotional, quick-to-change person they have met. I'd agree.
Anyway, at this point of my life, I have finally started seeing what makes people tick. I used to think I was slightly autistic, but what made me change that thought is how I actually can see the veils of emotion people put up to hide themselves. I've been using this knowledge to help my friends ("real-world" and online) cut these roadblocks to success and actually move forward. I guess you could call me an unofficial psychologist.
The thing that makes me most unhappy is when I see so many people facing depression who are not able to look inward to solve what makes them feel down. Sadness is not the default human state. We all should be happy but there is always that one major need inside that holds us back. It could be we do not want confrontation, or we don't want to admit we are not the person we let the world see outside. Yet, the problem we have inside--that one, that is too socially uncomfortable--will be the major holdback in our lives until we actually take a chance and bring it forward. Discussion about how to fix the problem will be the only way to fix it, aside from putting a few struts up and trying to see if they'll hold.
I constantly bug people when I try to bring up something like this, and try to help them fix their problem by just asking them what is going on. It doesn't make for a happy conversation, but I know that it would make for a happier person in the end if we keep talking about it. I'm so persistent, I won't let a person out of the discussion until I know they know what is wrong. I do try to be kind and will stop if I know the person is extremely uncomfortable, but that's why I use humor as a backup to keep everyone happy.
What I get out of this entire realization, is that I'm not going to settle until everyone is happy and has a better understanding of his/her needs. I will try to apply this to my career, personal life, everywhere. I can see that people don't have time to always do self-analysis, so I'll just do what I can to make their lives run a bit more smoothly when possible.
I'd tell you all my problems but that would be such a long blog post, I don't think you'd want to read it right now along with this. I do propose we start another tagging game of your five biggest personal problems. Wouldn't that be fun?
Adeus for now. Remember, we're all stinky under the pits.
Anyway, at this point of my life, I have finally started seeing what makes people tick. I used to think I was slightly autistic, but what made me change that thought is how I actually can see the veils of emotion people put up to hide themselves. I've been using this knowledge to help my friends ("real-world" and online) cut these roadblocks to success and actually move forward. I guess you could call me an unofficial psychologist.
The thing that makes me most unhappy is when I see so many people facing depression who are not able to look inward to solve what makes them feel down. Sadness is not the default human state. We all should be happy but there is always that one major need inside that holds us back. It could be we do not want confrontation, or we don't want to admit we are not the person we let the world see outside. Yet, the problem we have inside--that one, that is too socially uncomfortable--will be the major holdback in our lives until we actually take a chance and bring it forward. Discussion about how to fix the problem will be the only way to fix it, aside from putting a few struts up and trying to see if they'll hold.
I constantly bug people when I try to bring up something like this, and try to help them fix their problem by just asking them what is going on. It doesn't make for a happy conversation, but I know that it would make for a happier person in the end if we keep talking about it. I'm so persistent, I won't let a person out of the discussion until I know they know what is wrong. I do try to be kind and will stop if I know the person is extremely uncomfortable, but that's why I use humor as a backup to keep everyone happy.
What I get out of this entire realization, is that I'm not going to settle until everyone is happy and has a better understanding of his/her needs. I will try to apply this to my career, personal life, everywhere. I can see that people don't have time to always do self-analysis, so I'll just do what I can to make their lives run a bit more smoothly when possible.
I'd tell you all my problems but that would be such a long blog post, I don't think you'd want to read it right now along with this. I do propose we start another tagging game of your five biggest personal problems. Wouldn't that be fun?
Adeus for now. Remember, we're all stinky under the pits.
By rose-marie, # 23. April 2008, 18:35:31
By rmccabe916, # 23. April 2008, 18:45:29
By rose-marie, # 23. April 2008, 19:07:15
Hey Ryan first of all you miss spelled adios,
Well what can i say ryan you were always good as a philospher. I can see what you mean about being persistant, i remember how made i just to make you.
By jrd2498, # 23. April 2008, 19:09:24
Peanut butter was before I came to college, from my daily PBJ. Now I just smell like red dust from Lubbock. (It has a smell right?)
I didn't misspell anything. "Adeus" is Portuguese.
Heh, if you come to Tech sometime, I'll show you some of the people I know (very few) and will let you see how stubborn how they are.
By rmccabe916, # 23. April 2008, 20:17:41
By jrd2498, # 23. April 2008, 21:21:26
I'm telling you though, you better like wind if you want to come here. It comes up sometimes and you're almost blown away. Not that bad most of the time really, but still...
BTW, if you get here next spring, I might be down in Brasília, Brazil then...you know studying "a broad." Haha, just kidding. That's not the big reason I want to go. It's just such a cool country!
By rmccabe916, # 24. April 2008, 03:38:50
The wind wont bother me so much, but findind a job would be the hard part. See at A&M i can even come down to work for two or three days a week, if i dont find another job. Plus A&M also pays a lot more money for my position.
By jrd2498, # 25. April 2008, 02:14:16
I don't think you'd really want to go back home if you're a full-time student. It's really hard to go home and study, even when it's just an hour away. You get distracted a lot from what I see with my cousin in KC.
By rmccabe916, # 25. April 2008, 04:12:03
By rose-marie, # 25. April 2008, 11:35:26
By jrd2498, # 25. April 2008, 23:32:15