My OperaThe Three Most Important Techniques for Women To know in Neutralizing a Dangerous Situation
Monday, February 22, 2010 7:55:04 AM
1. Eye contact
2. Voice, tone inflection
3. Criticize improper behavior
Maintain eye contact:
Looking someone in the eye, especially while confronting him is a powerful, self-assured thing to do. Looking someone in the eyes shows you are alert and paying attention. It is also a very respectful thing to do when people are speaking with us because it shows we are paying attention to them. By looking them in the eyes we demonstrate conviction and confidence. I am not a victim! It says I am powerful and I am more trouble than the possible assault is worth. If you feel that it becomes a contest of wills then shift your gaze to the bridge of his nose. Your head and eyes are still up conveying confidence while at the same time removing uncomfortable competition Averting your eyes, on the other hand suggests nervousness, embarrassment, and a lack of conviction.
Use Your Voice tone, inflection, volume
A whispered, monotone voice will seldom convince another person that you mean business, while a shouted message will bring out his defenses to your message. A level, well-modulated tone is convincing without being intimidating.
In a case of harassment or an attempted sexual assault, you can use your voice in several ways:
Use a calm controlled voice. Gather your thoughts and then confront him deliberately with, as much or as little edge to your voice as you think is needed.
Shout upon contact and during counterattack using noises that make you sound fierce. Shout to distract the attacker and perhaps scare him away or attract other people to help. Do not cry for help. Instead yell fire. People will come then.
3. Name and Criticize the behavior: Harassers bank on women trying to ignore behaviors that are offensive or embarrassing. Simply refusing to pretend that it’s not happening gives him power. Naming the bad behavior can have the effect of stopping it. Saying for instance, “That remark you just made is insulting,” brings things out into the open, and makes a harasser publicly accountable. Tell him exactly what you think about the behavior in question, ie.; that is “demeaning”, “invasive”, “coercive”, “creepy”, etc. Make sure you criticize the behavior, and not the man, e.g. “That remark was really ugly.” and not “you are really ugly.”
For additional information visit Villari's Self-Defense of Royal Palm Beach! at www.VillarisRoyalPalm.com.
2. Voice, tone inflection
3. Criticize improper behavior
Maintain eye contact:
Looking someone in the eye, especially while confronting him is a powerful, self-assured thing to do. Looking someone in the eyes shows you are alert and paying attention. It is also a very respectful thing to do when people are speaking with us because it shows we are paying attention to them. By looking them in the eyes we demonstrate conviction and confidence. I am not a victim! It says I am powerful and I am more trouble than the possible assault is worth. If you feel that it becomes a contest of wills then shift your gaze to the bridge of his nose. Your head and eyes are still up conveying confidence while at the same time removing uncomfortable competition Averting your eyes, on the other hand suggests nervousness, embarrassment, and a lack of conviction.
Use Your Voice tone, inflection, volume
A whispered, monotone voice will seldom convince another person that you mean business, while a shouted message will bring out his defenses to your message. A level, well-modulated tone is convincing without being intimidating.
In a case of harassment or an attempted sexual assault, you can use your voice in several ways:
Use a calm controlled voice. Gather your thoughts and then confront him deliberately with, as much or as little edge to your voice as you think is needed.
Shout upon contact and during counterattack using noises that make you sound fierce. Shout to distract the attacker and perhaps scare him away or attract other people to help. Do not cry for help. Instead yell fire. People will come then.
3. Name and Criticize the behavior: Harassers bank on women trying to ignore behaviors that are offensive or embarrassing. Simply refusing to pretend that it’s not happening gives him power. Naming the bad behavior can have the effect of stopping it. Saying for instance, “That remark you just made is insulting,” brings things out into the open, and makes a harasser publicly accountable. Tell him exactly what you think about the behavior in question, ie.; that is “demeaning”, “invasive”, “coercive”, “creepy”, etc. Make sure you criticize the behavior, and not the man, e.g. “That remark was really ugly.” and not “you are really ugly.”
For additional information visit Villari's Self-Defense of Royal Palm Beach! at www.VillarisRoyalPalm.com.
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