Saturday, 6. December 2008, 18:08:25
media, mental health, fun
Today I stumbled upon American celebrity psychologist Dr. Phil's website. It is pretty good, offering plenty of good advice. The articles are well categorized, concise, and easy to the eyes. I bookmarked it for future reference.
Here is a
fun sample article under the category of Life Strategies. Other categories such as Health and Relationship/Sex have further topical breakdowns. One can easily find something that is useful.
I also came across an interesting video in My Opera member yooperprof's
blog. It has the Pet Shop Boys in it. They were not singing, though. Someone else was. A great performer but a less impressive singer.
Thursday, 30. October 2008, 22:59:28
thoughts, mental health
It is interesting that the result of the little psychic test in the previous post says that I am a well-balanced person who has got every aspects of life happily in order. I only wish that were the case.
Balance, however, is something that I try to achieve in daily life. I have been very conscious about it in the past couple of years, after a period of complete loss of balance, due to the need to survive in new environments and lack of awareness, which affected my health and my general well being. This consciousness has hightened in recent months, so have my efforts into achieving it in widening areas.
There are many areas in which one can attempt change and progress. Protecting personal territory from aggressive individuals including family members is part of it. Watching one's diet and changing eating and sleeping habits is part of it. Not fretting over small stuff is part of it. I am happy that I have achieved good results in some of these and other areas, although I still have a long way to go.
Simoultaneously, I have become wary of over-intense people and feel the need to stay away from them. I cannot even endure a dramatic television scene in which a person has gotten very intense and lost it, for more than a few seconds; though it may well be the actor/actress over-performing.
The more I live, the more I believe that balance is the essence of the art of living. This may sound cliche to others. But I do not have parents or older relatives to guide me; I learned it from experience.
Friday, 15. August 2008, 04:43:00
quotes, mental health
The problem in many of our relationships is that our accounts are overdrawn. When we make a mistake and we need a little mercy, understanding, or the benefit of the doubt, that person goes to our relationship account and discovers it is already empty. Now we must live constantly on edge. Minor issues become magnified. We have to guard every word that we say, because there is no reservoir of grace from which to draw in that relationship. We've exhausted the resources. And that's when little things turn into big things.
Joel Osteen
Saturday, 17. February 2007, 06:12:58
mental health, quotes
If you have a day when you feel very good, you'll know that you succeeded in satisfying your basic needs. If you have a bad day, it's the opposite. A mentally healthy person pays attention to feelings. I've found out that when I get even a small discomfort, I take a moment and say to myself,"Okay, which need is it?"
- William Glasser, M.D.
Thursday, 15. February 2007, 14:44:16
mental health, quotes, feelings
The tragedy of intense but short-lived romantic love, almost always ended by external control, has been the heart and soul of all literature -- of novels, stories, poetry, plays, movies, and opera -- from the time these forms were created. Happiness prevails when neither partner tries to control the other.... But that kind of happiness is a non-seller in the box office and a rare occurrence in life.
Infatuation, one of life's most enjoyable but least lasting experiences, is so strong because the need for power is temporarily subordinated to the desire for romantic love and sex....As soon as the sex gets the least bit routine, external control surfaces and kills the romantic love.... When the infatuation ends, the affairs should end, and it usually does. Trying to keep it going is like beating a dead horse.
Choice theory continues to say: it's what you do in a relationship that counts, you can't control your mate or anyone else.
William Glasser
WIDGETIZE