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Saturday, August 27, 2011 5:47:06 AM
In Teresa's as in a certain country whom language I love, I have a reputation for being polite and appreciating good manners.
You can have fun here in many different posted scenarios, getting them to practise what to do and what not to do here. If you remain clean, friendly you're welcome...
I've stated good manners and general rules in my sticky post and its comments. Now I'm going to transcribe some general rules I seem very useful also; for loving British manner if apply I'm going to establish them as a rule.
How to greet people
~ Say hello if you walks into the 'room-post' to be polite
~ Don’t kiss people on their cheeks like they do in France -at least you were Spanish speaker people (That's nothing to us)
~ In general in UK they say hello without hugging or shaking hands unless they are very close friends we haven’t seen for a long time (hug) or someone very important (shake hands).
Saying please and thank you
~ You can never say thank you too many times
~ Always say please if you ask for something
Opening the door…
~ Don’t barge past someone
~ Say ‘Excuse me’ if you want to get past someone
~ Say ‘Sorry’ if you bump into someone, even if it’s their fault.
~ Do not jump the queue
Here as in everywhere, you will find most people are kinder to you if you behave politely, respecting local people (my friends I mean) and customs. You may sometimes upset people (me I mean) by things that you say or do, even if these things seem perfectly normal in your own culture.
When you first meet someone it can be difficult to know how to start a conversation, especially if your first language is not English.
Which topics are safe for small talk?
- Introductions, eg "Hello. May I introduce myself? My name is -----"
- Travel, eg "Did you manage to find here OK?" or "Did you have a good journey?"
- Family, eg "How is your family?" (but only if you already know about the person's family)
- Hospitality, eg "Can I get you something to eat or drink?"
- The weather, eg "It's a lovely day today, isn't it?"
- Holidays, eg "Are you going anywhere this weekend?" or "Are you going anywhere on holiday this year?"
- Nature, eg "The garden looks lovely, doesn't it?"
- Pets, eg "What a lovely dog. What is his name?" (British people -me too, love dogs or cats)
- General news, eg "What do you think about the recent floods?" (but safer to avoid gossip and politics)
- Films, eg "Have you seen the film Bridget Jones's Diary?"
- Television, eg "Did you see The X Factor last night?"
- Music, eg "What sort of music do you like?"
- Books, eg "Have you read any good books recently?" (but only if you know the person likes reading)
- Sport, eg "Have you been watching Wimbledon?" (note that many British people, especially men, enjoy talking about football)
- Hobbies, eg "What do you enjoy doing in your spare time?"
- Business, eg "How's your business going?" (but only ask if you know the person has a business)
- Studies, eg "What are you studying?" (but only ask if you know the person is a student)
- Work, eg "What sort of work do you do?"
- Food, eg "I had a lovely Chinese meal last night - do you like Chinese food?"
- General matters about the person you are talking to, eg "Have you lived in this area long?"
- General matters on subjects that you know that interests the person you are talking to, eg cars, film stars etc
Which topics are best avoided for small talk?
You may need to be careful when you talk about some topics, especially with people that you've only just met, people who are older than you, people who appear to have strong religious or political views, or people who may have some personal problems or sensitivities. For example, be cautious if you discuss these subjects:
- Age, eg "How old are you?"
- Appearance or weight, eg "You seem to have put on some weight"
- Personal gossip about somebody you know
- Jokes that might offend (especially sexist or racist jokes)
- Money, eg "How much do you earn?"
- Sex (some people have strong religious views about this, or are embarrassed by the subject)
- Previous or current relationships, eg "Do you have a girlfriend?"
- Politics, eg "Who did you vote for at the last election?"
- Religion, eg "Do you believe in God?"
- Criticisms or complaints, eg "Why is British food so bad?"
PD: Of course Most of this post have been copied from several sites (quoted pending)