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Invalidation is to reject, ignore, mock, tease, judge, or diminish someone's feelings. It is an attempt to control how they feel and for how long they feel it.

Constant invalidation may be one of the most significant reasons a person with high innate emotional intelligence suffers from unmet emotional needs later in life.(1) A sensitive child who is repeatedly invalidated becomes confused and begins to distrust his own emotions. He fails to develop confidence in and healthy use of his emotional brain-- one of nature's most basic survival tools. To adapt to this unhealthy and dysfunctional environment, the working relationship between his thoughts and feelings becomes twisted. His emotional responses, emotional management, and emotional development will likely be seriously, and perhaps permanently, impaired. The emotional processes which worked for him as a child may begin to work against him as an adult. In fact, one defintion of the so-called "borderline personality disorder" is "the normal response of a sensitive person to an invalidating environment"

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People who may be suffering from depression or manic disorders actually exhibit or show each and every kind of symptom of depression that doctors will tell you that depressed people have. Sometimes it’s actually quite easy to overlook such symptoms and not be able to help one’s self or others who are suffering from depression for that matter.

There are actually a lot of symptoms of depression that depressed people may actually posses but they don’t have to suffer from each and every one of them before you actually help them get diagnosed and be treated for this illness. Also, since symptoms of depression actually vary, the time of their "attacks" varies as well.

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There's a dangerous illness afflicting women everywhere across the nation. It's linked to considerable physical and mental suffering. It disrupts millions of lives, decreasing productivity and contributing to marital stress, absenteeism, loss of income, and disability. It is depression.

Depression may not be as obvious as a broken leg, but it's just as real and just as painful. It's a complicated "whole body" illness that affects the way you eat, sleep, think, behave, and feel. It's a very treatable condition, so there is no need to suffer with it. Unfortunately, within the Christian community, there are four common misconceptions about this illness, which make it difficult for many to seek the help they need. These myths are:

1) God doesn't give us more hardship than we can handle.

2) Good Christians don't get depressed.

3) Depression is sin.

4) We're useless when we're depressed.

Many well meaning people tell the depressed person that God doesn't give you more than you can handle, so He must think you can bear whatever He has dumped in your lap. People who think this way claim that this idea is taught in 1 Corinthians 10:13. What this verse actually says is that you will not have any temptation that isn't common to men, and that God will not allow you to encounter any temptation to sin without also providing a way for you to avoid that temptation. In other words, God won't let you be tempted when there is no way you can resist sinning.

Does God allow his people to be burdened beyond what they're able to bear? Paul wrote these very words in his second letter to the Corinthian church. He said, "We were under great pressure, far beyond our ability to endure, so that we despaired even of life." (1 Corinthians 1:9) Paul's difficulties were too much for him. If God doesn't give more than a person can bear, He certainly would not have excessively overburdened the apostle Paul, would He?

Paul was suicidal and no longer wanted to live. That's about as depressed as you can get, so how can anyone say that Christians don't or shouldn't get depressed? Paul was a leader of the Christian church. If he got depressed, can we expect to be immune to depression? But don't despair about that, because Paul wrote, "But He (God) delivered us and He will deliver us." Even if the situation ends in death, God delivers His people. Paul wrote in 2 Timothy 4:16-22, "The Lord stood at my side and gave me strength, so that through me the message might be fully proclaimed . . . and I was delivered from the lion's mouth. The Lord will rescue me . . . and will bring me safely to His heavenly kingdom." God helps us through tough times IF we allow Him to handle things and give Him room to work. Paul said "When I am weak, then I am strong." (2 Corinthians 12:10)

Some of God's greatest leaders suffered from depression. There was the prophet Elijah. In 1 Kings 19:4, it says, "He came to a broom tree, sat down under it and prayed that he might die. ‘I have had enough, LORD,' he said,' Take my life.'"

David, the "man after God's own heart," got depressed. The book of Psalms is filled with expressions of his depression. He wrote, "I am laid low in the dust." (Psalm 119:25) "I am troubled, I am bowed down greatly; I go mourning all the day long. I groan because of the turmoil of my heart."(Psalm 38:6,8 - NKJV) In Psalm 6:3 he says, "my soul is in anguish." Verses 6 and 7 say, "I am worn out from groaning; all night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears. My eyes grow weak with sorrow."

King Soloman wrote in Proverbs 18:14, "The spirit of a man will sustain him in sickness, But who can bear a broken spirit?"

Others in the Bible who may have experienced depression include Job, Jonah, and Jeremiah (called "the weeping prophet").

Nowhere does the Bible call depression sin. 2 Corinthians 7:6 says God comforts the depressed; He doesn't condemn them. Depression is an illness. A person cannot talk themselves out of it any more than they can talk themselves out of Chicken Pox, Diabetes, or Cancer.

Rather than being useless when in the throes of depression, we can be very useful to God when we have more than we can handle. It's at those times when we are at the end of our own strength that God can work best through us. In 2 Corinthians 12:9, Paul wrote, "He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me."

When God allows trials to come into our lives, Peter says it's "so that your faith will be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory, and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed." (1 Peter 1:6,7)

God's strength takes over and gets us through, when we've reached the point of more than we can handle on our own. ( John 15:5 says, "Apart from me you can do nothing.) This is why Paul boasted about his weaknesses instead of trying to hide them. He acknowledged that he had no strength himself, yet he was more than a conqueror (Romans 8:37) by God's strength and power, which worked through him.

Depression can be a struggle, but I've found that it can also be a gift. The person who has experienced it can help others through it. Only one who knows first hand how it feels to despair of life can offer compassion and understanding to a fellow sufferer. This kind of empathy is not possible for someone who has never felt for themselves the hopelessness of depression.

Author Marsha Jordan is founder of a nonprofit charity called Hugs and Hope for Sick Children (http://www.hugsandhope.org). More of her articles on depression are in her book, Hugs, Hope, and Peanut Butter, a compilation of encouraging essays illustrated with drawings by critically ill children. Proceeds from book sales will benefit kids battling cancer and other life-threatening illnesses.

Other essays in the book include, "Ten Tips For Beating Depression," and "Why Doesn't God Answer My Prayer?" Order the book or learn more at http://www.hugsandhope.org/book.htm

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I started my new class,Health Care Organizations. My first assignmanr was due on the 26th, I got an A . My next assognmant is due Friday and I have to make 12 powerpoint slides. Makeing the slides isn't bad. But explaining the slides in the notes is new to me, Man a pain in the butt. I'll get it, my classes are only 5 1/2 weeks long.

Well, I got all my tasks in by 11:59:59 last nite, the last day of class. Now I have to wait for the Professor to grade them The last I taked about was worth 150pt and I got 150pt.

Stranger In My Mirror

© Rose Madeline Mula

Please be careful.
This person has found her way into my house and could
also get into yours.
A very weird thing has happened.
A strange old lady has moved into my
house. I have no idea who she is, where she came from,
or how she got in. I certainly did not invite her.
All I know is that one day she wasn't there,
and the next day she was.
She is a clever old lady and manages to keep out of sight
for the most part, but whenever I pass a mirror I catch a
glimpse of her. And, whenever I look in the mirror to check my
appearance, there she is hogging the whole thing, completely,
obliterating my gorgeous face and body. This is very rude!
I have tried screaming at her, but she just screams back.
The least she could do is offer to pay part of the rent, but no.
Every once in a while, I find a dollar bill stuck in a coat pocket,
or some loose change under a sofa cushion, but it is not nearly enough.
I don't want to jump to conclusions, but I think she is stealing money
from me. I go to the ATM and withdraw $100, and a few days later,
it's all gone!
I certainly don't spend money THAT fast, so I can only conclude the old
lady is pilfering from me. You'd think she would spent some of that
money to buy wrinkle cream.
And money isn't the only thing I think she is stealing. Food seems to
disappear at an alarming rate-especially the good stuff like ice cream,
cookies and candy. She must have a real sweet tooth, but she'd better
watch it, because she is really packing on the pounds.
I suspect she realizes this, and to make herself feel better, she is
tampering with my scale to make me think I am putting on weight too.
For an old lady, she is quite childish. She likes to play nasty games,
like going into my closets when I'm not home and
altering my clothes so they don't fit.
And she messes with files and papers so I can't find anything.
This is particularly annoying since I am extremely
neat and organized.
She has found other imaginative ways to annoy me.
She gets into my mail, newspapers and magazines before
I do and blurs the print so I can't read it.
And she has done something really sinister to the volume controls on my
TV, radio and telephone. Now, all I hear are mumbles and whispers.
She has done other things - like make my stairs steeper, my vacuum
heavier and all the knobs and faucets harder to turn. She even made my
bed higher so that getting into and out of it is a real challenge.
Lately, she has been fooling with my groceries before I put them away,
applying glue to the lids, making it almost impossible for me to open the jars.
She has taken the fun out of shopping for clothes. When I try something
on, she stands in front of the dressing room mirror and monopolizes it.She looks totally ridiculous in some of those outfits, plus she keeps me
from seeing how great they look on me.
Just when I thought she couldn't get any meaner, she proved me wrong.
She came along when I went to get my picture taken for my driver's
license and just as the camera shutter clicked, she jumped in front of me.
I hope she never finds out where you live.
I really do!
© Rose Madeline Mula
Please visit her site at:

http://www.seniorwomen.com/