Walk in Beauty

• When I look at someone, the signal goes one way: from that person to me, right?
  
• And when I say something to someone, the signal goes one way: from me to that person, right?

Not quite. It's really a two way traffic.

• There have been people who could make miracles with my voice, call forward all its potential of beauty, simply by listening to it. And loving it. (And there may be again...)
  
• And I know that some people can feel it when I look at them. I know it because I have been told explicitly. And because numerous times I have seen people turn around towards me when I looked at them from behind.

I am - of course - completely aware that some people question or openly reject the idea that it is possible for one person to feel another person who is far away. I will not be going into a philosophical and scientific discussion of this. And I will not try to "prove" anything. I will just tell about some personal experiences as if they are quite natural. Which they actually are, for me.

There are several people of whom I know positively that regardless of the physical distance between us they can "feel" me and know that it is me they are feeling. Some of them have told me things about myself that they could not possibly know through a more "normal" source. And there are others who I suspect can do the same, but I don't know it.

This is very much a case of one way traffic though I will later tell you of a specific case where I was on the receiving end. It seems to have quite a bit to do with gender and it actually works as one might expect. I, as a man seem to be a very much better signal sender than receiver. And they, who all are women, generally seem to be much better receivers than senders.

How does it work? The basic principles are simple and logical and well known from other contexts:

1. You need a reasonably strong sender. I am one.
2. And a reasonably sensitive receiver. Those women are.
3. And a reasonably good calibration between sender and receiver.

Three factors: signal strength, sensitivity and precision of calibration. The better one of these factors is, the smaller demands on the two others.

The principles may be demonstrated by the one significant incident where the signal went the other way.

Many years ago I had said goodbye to my then girlfriend and we had left town in opposite directions. I was driving on my bicycle outside town and suddenly I felt that she was in rather serious trouble. I focused on her in my mind and tried to send her strength. After a few minutes the crisis seemed to pass.

Later I learned that in those very minutes she was pursued by a man in the village where she lived and that she got in safety at a neighbour's house.

What may have been the factors that made me receive and understand a signal significantly better than I usually did (and do)? I think it was mainly about signal strength and calibration. She was afraid which made her send a strong signal. And her fear was very much about rape. This made her signal focus strongly on me because her sexuality was totally centred around me. So I received a strong and precise signal that was clearly above the "background noise" and with an easily identifiable source.

But sensitive women seem to be able to understand much less dramatic signals.

Do you know those golden, miraculous moments when you find your balance and rhythm and style and you hit your stride and the impossible becomes possible, even easy?

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