Forgiveness or Hatred?
Wednesday, December 8, 2010 2:49:56 PM
Have you ever been betrayed by your best friend or a family member? How does it make you feel? I bet most of you would either feel sad or feel that little spark of hatred quickly expanding into something huge?
In my opinion, its much much easier to forgive than to hate someone. Why? Because that is what I have concluded after experiencing a lot of things during the past twenty one years of my life, and I tell you, most of them weren't easy to deal with
So I'm not gonna go into too much details of those things, coz I would just end up boring you all
Do you ever notice that if you get really mad and disappointed at someone for saying or doing something to hurt you, you feel this sharp pain manifesting from within? Yes, I understand that feeling. Chances are that feeling will stay with you for the rest of the month or year, depending on how you deal with it. Then finally, after five or ten years, you forget everything about that person, but somehow his/her name just popped out again in some rare instances (newspaper, facebook, or somewhere) and everything about him/her comes back again to you like massive tidal waves. Well, that is the adverse effect of hating someone. It makes you feel bad because you cannot quite understand why something happened and you cannot accept that person's betrayal or the hurt that he/she caused you. You just cannot forgive.
But to tell you the truth, you will feel a whole lot better once you attempt to forgive him/her. But how to forgive? It's rather easy - just stop thinking about him/her as something important. Pretend that it's something that's just part of the life, and that life goes on still, whatever you do. You may also try to understand the situation of the other person, and perhaps come to accept why such a thing has happened. If a friend betrays you, well why do you have to suffer when he/she is out there having the time of his/her life right? Just look for a new friend or look for something to divert your attention. Once you have become successful, you will no longer feel so bad even after many years have passed and you suddenly encounter him/her again under some rare circumstances. You no longer feel bitter, but you would instead feel nice that at some point in your life, you were brave enough to overcome the bad things, because the least you want to do is hide from the truth.
We should face challenges, not hide shy away from them That is the only way to conquer them and never regret for not taking the leap I don't know how much sense this article makes, but I hope that in some way, you guys understand what I'm talking about
My motto: Face all challenges that come your way with full force, and you will live the rest of your live with good conscience