Wednesday, December 8, 2010 2:49:56 PM
Should I forgive you? or should I hate you? Which one could be an easier way out, you might ask, well, read on
Have you ever been betrayed by your best friend or a family member? How does it make you feel? I bet most of you would either feel sad or feel that little spark of hatred quickly expanding into something huge?
In my opinion, its much much easier to forgive than to hate someone. Why? Because that is what I have concluded after experiencing a lot of things during the past twenty one years of my life, and I tell you, most of them weren't easy to deal with
So I'm not gonna go into too much details of those things, coz I would just end up boring you all
Do you ever notice that if you get really mad and disappointed at someone for saying or doing something to hurt you, you feel this sharp pain manifesting from within? Yes, I understand that feeling. Chances are that feeling will stay with you for the rest of the month or year, depending on how you deal with it. Then finally, after five or ten years, you forget everything about that person, but somehow his/her name just popped out again in some rare instances (newspaper, facebook, or somewhere) and everything about him/her comes back again to you like massive tidal waves. Well, that is the adverse effect of hating someone. It makes you feel bad because you cannot quite understand why something happened and you cannot accept that person's betrayal or the hurt that he/she caused you. You just cannot forgive.
But to tell you the truth, you will feel a whole lot better once you attempt to forgive him/her. But how to forgive? It's rather easy - just stop thinking about him/her as something important. Pretend that it's something that's just part of the life, and that life goes on still, whatever you do. You may also try to understand the situation of the other person, and perhaps come to accept why such a thing has happened. If a friend betrays you, well why do you have to suffer when he/she is out there having the time of his/her life right? Just look for a new friend or look for something to divert your attention. Once you have become successful, you will no longer feel so bad even after many years have passed and you suddenly encounter him/her again under some rare circumstances. You no longer feel bitter, but you would instead feel nice that at some point in your life, you were brave enough to overcome the bad things, because the least you want to do is hide from the truth.
We should face challenges, not hide shy away from them That is the only way to conquer them and never regret for not taking the leap I don't know how much sense this article makes, but I hope that in some way, you guys understand what I'm talking about
My motto: Face all challenges that come your way with full force, and you will live the rest of your live with good conscience
Thursday, October 9, 2008 6:13:51 PM
Okay, so I should have written about this a month ago I was just too lazy to put up those photos and talk about it But now, the photos are up, you can see them in my Opera albums (Cebu Trip ) Don't forget to comment if you see something really funny or weird or whatever
Anyway, last September 19-22 2008, my friends together with some committee members went to Cebu City, a beautiful city in central Philippines, to attend an economic convention hosted by the our organization (Young Economists' Convention). Well at first, it does seem that we're gonna be on a "business" trip but quickly, priorities shifted and touring and having fun became the core of the trip Of course, knowing us, we would never waste such an opportunity to make the most fun out of the very short period of time. Really, it was the first time my friends and I were on such a trip outside Manila for almost 4 days It was so much fun! Being with my friends on this trip, not my high school friends, but those from the university, was a whole new experience. They were truly a crazy bunch of people The good kind of crazy, of course My only regret was that I didn't bring along extra clothes on the third day when we went island hopping. I really didn't expect that my friends would go snorkeling in such a windy day, and I missed so much more fun, instead of just standing on the boat watching them have fun. Yes, the waves were high and while we stopped in a certain place to snorkel and swim, the boat (although big) was rocking nonstop...and the news had it that a typhoon was near I freaked out because I couldn't swim, if something happens, I'm doomed I'm glad that we were finally on our way back when the rain hit. I went downstairs and sat on the bench and was fast asleep, until we arrived back to the small port
With this trip, I believe that our friendship has further strengthened. I'd like to think of it as sort of a kind of team building, except that its for academic and not for corporate purposes Had I been in the water with them, this trip would have been even more memorable, although it is already unforgettable My next trip with my friends would be on this December and this time we're going international We're headed to Shanghai, perhaps Suzhou, Nanjing, Hangzhou, and then Beijing First, why the sudden urge to go on trips like this? Well, this one in December was supposed to be another economic conference, but since it is only offered in the curriculum for a certain economic elective course which I had not yet enrolled myself in, I can't join the conference. However, for the sake of my thirst to travel, and to help my friends (since I can speak Mandarin fluently), I decided to join them on this trip and be responsible for all documents, hotel reservations, ticket bookings, etc.
I'll probably put up another post about that trip when things are finalized I'm so excited! hahaha well, now I'm gonna go back to playing Travian a really nice online browser-based strategy game where you build your own village and by all means, keep it alive, which means to protect it from enemies' attacks and expand it Perhaps you all can try it out too www.travian.com (it has servers for different countries, if you do no like being in the international server) I play in the 3rd(Northwestern area) and 5th(Northeastern area) international servers see you there! If you need help, I can give you some very helpful sources,just send me a message
Friday, August 1, 2008 6:02:47 PM
My glorious return from a triumphant battle...
Wow! It felt like a century ago when I last wrote a new post The truth is, or well you all might have already guessed, is that I was buried too deep under my never-decreasing workload. Well, I'd been working overtime recently, and sleeping undertime I had skipped classes during the whole month of July more than I had during the last two years of my university life! It does not sound like me anymore...when I used to wonder why a friend of mine always attempts to cut classes, when he could have exerted a little more effort to sleep early and wake up early to attend class. But now, I understood Once you start skipping classes, you'll never stop doing it. Yeah, it's addictive... sleeping has never been such a luxury for me than during the past 19 years of my life
So, now you're wondering, why a title like that for this post? Well, it has nothing to do with our appearances, of course instead, our thesis adviser started calling my thesis group "The Hot Girls" because we were doing a thesis about the potential of an increased geothermal power production in the Philippines, and how it can contribute to carbon offsetting, and to an economy without depending on oil for electricity Since, geothermal steam is indeed very hot (about 300C degree or higher), that was where we naturally got our little "nom de plume" from I don't know how long these hot girls are going to remain hot, but we sure wouldn't want to be like hot potatoes tossed from one hand to another hehe
Eventually, I feel the need to get tired of complaining about Panda bear...since she's always doing all so well, while the remaining three of us grew paler and sicklier each day, hmm I wonder why? Anyway, just so you guys don't get too worried about my sudden "evaporation" (although that is quite unlikely, since we've been having a considerably great amount of rainfall lately, that I had never wished so much to wear flip flops to school instead of close-shoes, because of the higher-than-ankle-length flood) and the possibility of never falling back to earth as a part of the condensation cycle...I decided to write something random, which is what I'm doing now
A lot has been going on lately, and by that, I mean A LOT! Things change unexpectedly, and perhaps miracles come next? haha in my dreams but hey, no matter what happens, I would never attempt to abondon this beloved blog of mine that has bridged so many wonderful friendships, even through this virtual world. In our subconsciousness, I know we'd already treated everything here as if it is part of our lives in reality I write stuff on here, and I get comments back, then I would comment back, and so on...its just as normal as that, but somehow it has become an inevitable part of our daily lives That is how I felt for this blog and all the people that came with it
One thing's for sure, even when the "Hot Girls" are no longer hot, I'll make sure that at least one of them would always toss in some random stuff on here and that would be me Hmm it is my bed time now...*yawn* Good night everyone! sweet dreams... and have a great weekend!
Wednesday, May 28, 2008 4:00:42 PM
Just when I thought I could relax, now that I'd finish writing about my trip to Scandinavia, I discovered that I was being tagged by Nikko after I read his post This is already the second time I'd been tagged Now I have no choice but to play by the rules
So, here are the instructions
A. People who have been tagged must write their answers on their blog and replace any question they dislike with a new question formulated by themselves. Tag eight people. Those who are tagged cannot refuse.
B. These eight people must state who they were tagged by. You cannot tag the person who tagged you. Continue this game by sending this to eight other people.
I think I might have to change the rules here a bit, and go with tagging fewer people you see, I know some people don't like to be tagged, so I'm just making the world a better place to live by changing the rules a bit anyway, here goes the questions plus my answers. Wow, this is gonna be the only time you'll ever get to read my answers about such nonsense questions, but oh well, there you go
1. If your lover betrayed you, what will your reaction be?
---I would breakup with him, no doubt. What is there left to be remorseful on when he'd already done the worst thing that could be done to hurt someone?
2. What will you do if you do not share the same feelings as the person who likes you?
---Well, I'm very frank. I would tell him straight how I felt about him, but in a nice way of course, and let him realize that there are always better girls out there he could pursue
3. What if question number two was the other way around?
---Hmm that would be hard...I guess if I really love him and want to be with him, I will not give up, but I will never try to force him to like me, I will just try my best to be myself and be there for him if he needs someone to listen or talk to
4. Would you rather be dumped by your BOYFRIEND or see your him cheating on you?
---I wouldnt wait so long as to be dumped, if I'd discovered he is cheating on me. I would dump him myself and right away! I am not the kind of person to be cheated on, I have my dignity and I command respect
5. What`s your ideal lover like?
---Haha another one of those difficult questions, but hmm...my ideal lover would be someone whom I could talk about anything with, someone who listens to, understands me, and accept me for who I am. He should also be funny, talkative (yes, I like talkative guys ), good-looking (hmm, dont we all like that?), kind, and caring.
6. Which is more blessed, loving someone or being loved by someone?
---Being loved by someone is more blessed, but loving someone makes me happier, although it can be difficult sometimes
7. If the person you like does not accept you, would you continue for them to change their feelings?
---Eh isnt this similar to the third question? anyway, I would first have to think things over, see if I really love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him. If I do, then yes, I will continue to love him no matter when, even if they never change their feelings...I will move on, but there will always be a place for him in my heart
8. If the person you like is already attached, what would you do?
---Wait? maybe...or just give them my best wishes There's really not much I can do, can I?
9. If you could leave everything behind and go to a place to start anew, where would it be?
---Stockholm, most definitely! 100% sure, no doubt
10. What do you want most in your life?
---I'd like to have freedom to choose and decide for what I want to do in the future. I want to be able to fulfill my dreams, even if the roads are crooked, I will face the challenges without the least bit of hesitation
11. Is being tagged fun?
---Uhm...not really, but it's fun to read other people's answer
12. If you find out that your best friend is going out with your boyfriend or girlfriend, how would you react?
---I would confront both of them and confirm whether they really like each other, if they do, I'll back out and make them a happy couple. It's not really a big deal, why do I have to care for him when he'd already hurt me that much? =/
13. Who is currently the most important person/s to you?
---My parents and family and my best friends, of course
14. What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?
---Oh! HIM? He's a big size loudspeaker phone, no doubt! but I like him being that way, we used to call him Hilary, derived from the word Hilarious
15. You always loved *fill in the blank* _________________________ ?
---Blogging, playing piano, taking pictures, chatting over msn, and of course, hanging out with my friends
16. If the person you secretly like cannot recognize you, what would you do or how would you react?
---Cannot recognize me? Do you mean after I get a plastic surgery or undergo a terrible accident? well, if that's the case, I will have to do my self-introduction all over again(well, excluding the part that I like him)
17. Would you give your all in a relationship?
---Yes, of course. A relationship is built up on trust, and to gain trust, I will also have to take my part in giving my all to the relationship, right? (I'm sure Linh would agree with me? )
18. If you fall in love with two persons simultaneously, who would you pick?
---Who would I pick? Well, I don't think you'd know who they are, so telling you their names wouldn't do much help. But hmm, I would compare the both of them maybe, and pick the one whom I love more, or see myself with him in the future with Kinda vague, dont you think? haha
19. What type of friends do you like?
---I like to have friends whom I can rely on, whom I can share my secrets with, whom I can laugh and cry with, and accept me for who I am
20. If you played a prank on someone, and he or she fell for the trick, what would you do?
---I would laugh with all my might Yes, I'm evil
Those people whom I will tag, please dont blame me I was only playing by the rules haha forgive me pls I will be sending messages to your respective message boxes to alert you of your being tagged cya! hehe