Sunday, January 30, 2011 11:58:03 PM
Are you risk-averse? Or are you a risk taker like I am? Wanna know my opinion about these two groups of people? Read on...
First off, life is full of opportunities for you to make decisions, small and big ones. You decide what to eat on breakfast, you decide what time to go to bed, you choose to go to or skip school, you decide whether to go bungee-jumping, its all about decisions. We may rarely be aware, but there are consequences to whatever choice we make, but most of the time, we try to convince ourselves that what we did was right. But is it really right? Well, nothing is objective in life
There will always be some point in life that you have to make life-changing decisions that will not only affect yourself, but will also affect the people around you. I know many who chose to shy away from the challenge and pick a sort of win-win solution. But who are you fooling? This "win-win" solution is just a temporary remedy, in the long run, you will still be faced with the same challenge. You will also realize how much you have lost, by choosing not to take the leap. By then, its too late to go back, what's done is done This leads me to telling you why I am a risk taker
The truth is, there is really not a safe solution to anything you decide to do, what you think is safe, is only a method to mitigate the consequences, something to sort of dilute the effects and cushion the fall a bit, but will not prevent you from falling either way
Of course, when I talk about taking risks or choosing the road less taken, it does not mean that you just jump at every opportunity you come across coz that's just plain stupidity What I'm talking about here is how to minimize the consequences and maximize the benefits, and still not look like a coward haha There are always ways to calculate the cost and benefit of something, no matter how unquantifiable it is. You just have to view things objectively, and make sure you remain neutral throughout the entire decision process Try to minimize emotional factors as much as possible, because when you take a risk, you want it to be worthwhile, and not just an act of impulse
I don't understand why I have the tendency to choose to try out new things not because many have tried it, but because few has every tried it Is that an inner yearning to stand out from the rest?
The biggest decision I've ever made in my life as of now, is the decision to study abroad. As early as the first year of university, I already knew that I have to go somewhere, now or sometime in the future. Now the difficult part is how, when, and where? You know how Asian parents tend to be strict and over-protective, so I am constantly having to face situations where I need to think of reasons valid enough to persuade my parents Shall I say I have become sort of a master in that arena? hahaha Anyway...! Now I am set for Sweden, even if its just a short 2 years time, I hope that window of opportunity will still be open for me I am constantly being questions why I chose Sweden. Well, I see every good in every bad someone else sees, about Sweden. I have my reasons and I am not about to let someone else run my life. Why should I go to US? Why UK, Canada? Coz everyone is going there? haha no thanks! I will always choose the road less taken
Perhaps you would think, how is studying abroad such a big decision to make? It's just a matter of yes or no and the country to go to should not be so hard to decide But I tell you, I have many friends who are reluctant to take this leap, even if it equates to a better future, livelihood, than they currently have. Why? Certainly not because of lacking in the financial aspect, but more on the "I cannot leave my family behind." notion. Yes, the way we are brought up, we tend to be close to our family members. But these kind of situations will always end up knocking at your door throughout your life You dodge it once, twice, but not thrice. At some point in life, someone you care for and love will leave this world before you do, and you are confronted with the situation of having to put yourself together and move on with life. So why not enjoy life while you are still young and energetic? Leave the homesickness and dependency behind, live your life, and live it to the fullest. You have plenty of years left in lift to spend with your family anyway, when you reach your fifties or so. It's always better that way than spending 80% of your lifetime in a pension house regretting of not ever having fun with life
In light of this entire article, I want to commend those you took the leap. Whether you flew or you fell after that, don't worry, taking the leap is the most important step and you did it Enjoy every little thing you feel during the leap; the wind, the sensation, and feeling of freedom. By then, you know that you have done something right in life
To my friend Nikko, who is in London studying and working himself to death, never look back, just keep moving forward and one day you will see light ahead. To my friends who are too afraid to take the leap, you better start thinking over that decision again, stop worrying so much, grab what is rightfully yours. If you don't do it now, you will never get the chance again. Soon we will all be tied up with a family, work, and everything frustrating
Motto of the day: Live, laugh, love. [/I]
Wednesday, December 8, 2010 2:17:29 PM
I know that it's certainly not too late to come back to my blog
Yes, it was half a year ago since I wrote something, and these past 6 months have changed a lot of things too - in my personal life, within my circle of friends, within my family, and so on
Let me give you guys a recap of some highlights of my life during the past 6 months and the upcoming events Interesting? I don' know, you be the judge, alright? I'll be posting more articles for other events in more details
September 2010 --
- Finished writing my second thesis for my business degree
- Attended the Shanghai World Expo 2010 for 2 full days roaming around the European Pavilions area
October 2010 --
- University graduation recognition rites: Yeah I have finally GRADUATED!!! For those of you who have been following my blog before, you probably now how difficult these 5 full years have been for me!
October - November 2010 --
- I was in Los Angeles, USA with my parents visiting my grandparents. Yes, it was my first time to be there, and quite frankly, it wasn't that good, but wasn't so bad either I will write more about that in the succeeding posts (if I finish this one successfully)
December 2010 --
- Application for Swedish and Danish universities are OPEN! So many stuff to do..haha
- IELTS Speaking Test tommorrow, and writing test on December 11, 2010.
- GMAT on December 17, 2010 (This one driving me NUTS!!!)
- Attending a Christmas EXPO for my online store on December 18-23 , 2010(Yep, I'll be having my own booth there)
January 2011 --
- Going back to my home town
February 2011 --
- I am going to SHANGHAI to study Business Chinese I am sooo excited about this!! The entire program lasts about 5 months
Alright, that's it for now..hahaha I'm starting to bore you guys :O
Watch out for more posts, yeah? haha cya!!
Saturday, January 10, 2009 10:15:08 AM
December 20, 2008
I shall skip one day and continue to the third day when we were leaving for Beijing by train, at around 7:30pm. Actually, the day before this one was basically just a nothing-day...except maybe the fact that Lala went to get a new haircut by the hair salon just across the street where Jane and I spent 2-3 hours just sitting there, taking some random pictures and pretty much just looking out for Lala's hair Okay, so why was it a nothing-day? Well, Joyce, Niki, and Alddon went to attend their economic workshop, only three of us left in the apartment and cant go anywhere new since Joyce, Niki, Alddon did not want to miss out on anything. Anyway, after Lala had her haircut + rebond, we went back to the apartment then got on the subway and headed to the Shanghai Railway Station to get train tickets then to East Nanjing Pedestrian Shopping Street again and spent the rest of the day there By the time we got home, it was almost 11:00pm, due to some transportation difficulties, that the MTR line 4 was closed and we had to take line 8 and back to line 2 to get to Nanpu Station (our stop) -_-
Okay, so back to the third day It was a normal day, sunny and a bit cold. We didn't do much in the morning, just packed up our stuff to get ready to leave for Beijing that night. So the plan was that Joyce, Niki, and Alddon were supposed to come back to the apartment by 5pm or so, but when I called them and asked were they were, they told me they're still in the conference room xD Then I panicked, I was like "What? Are you serious? the train leaves 7:30pm and it takes some time to get to the train station with our amount of luggage, and then we have to hover around the big station to find the right platform. Please come home as soon as possible." and they were whispering "We cant, it would be very disrespectful to the speaker if we leave in the middle of his lecture, but we'll get out as soon as possible." In the end, I told them to just get a cab and go to the train station directly, while Jane, Lala, and I take care of all the luggages and meet up at the train station. Lucky we got a van taxi to take us there, or we'd not have fit in one taxi haha The funny thing about this whole "event" was that we actually had 4 groups of people meeting up at the station at the same time, not to mention that we're almost late for the train (there was like 30 mins left for us to get to the platform). First group, its Valle and Eric, they got to the train station the earliest and waited at the entrance, so no problem finding them. Second group, Rain and his friend who helped him get to the right place; he saw me as soon as we arrived at the entrance, so no problem as well. Third and fourth group was my group, and Joyce's group, we also saw each other at the carpark area, where we hired porters to help with the luggage and help us find the platform. WHEW! That was close! hahaha (but the porter fee was damn expensive -_- we had no choice, or the train's gonna leave us lol) and I forgot to mention that all this time, my phone never stopped ringing, I was on the phone almost all of the time, talking with 3 groups of people waiting to meet up...xD It was chaos that turned out well in the end
After much running and hovering, we finally got to the train with 15 mins left to spare before it departs for Shanghai. Hmmm the train looks really nice It was actually the first time that I took a long haul train ride. Our trip to Beijing took around 11 hours. We had to sleep in the train overnight at the small cabins (but still clean and comfy). So we had our dinner also at the train, there was a small "cafeteria" that serves meals. The food was oily and tastes weird...but oh well, we'll wait till we get to Beijing to get some more decent food hehe That night in the cabin, we played a few rounds of card games, called the Heartattack It was so much fun! So Valle, having only played it for the first time, always lost, and Rain, who sat farthest to the table, also lost several rounds (imagine 8 of us squeezed in a small 4-person cabin while Eric stayed in his cabin comfortably and peacefully reading his book, as the rest of us almost wrestled ourselves to death) During this "violent" card game, some hands were brutally slapped, like that of Joyce's (thanks to Rain), and two of my precious cards was damaged (folded at the corner) I don't remember what time it was that we went to sleep...I think it was around 12:00 or so...after everyone got tired and the excitement gone down a bit
By 5:30am, my phone alarm rang, and I woke up to start preparing for the arrival of the train, that is an hour after. Yes, it took some time to get everyone in the cabin (4 per cabin) to wake up, especially Joyce and Lala...and well, my boots too, always hard to maneuver and get them on We woke up the others after we're done and then just sat there and waited for the train to arrive. Actually before that, we walked around a lot, and on our way, I saw some snow by the train cart connection area, informed Niki and he got really really excited haha he was like "SNOW! SNOW!!!!" and started scooping them up Despite the dirty snow, no words can describe his excitement xD We looked out the window and there was also snow, apparently there had been snowfall the night before we arrived in Beijing. So the train arrived promptly at around 6:40am, and we all felt the piercing cold, even while we're still inside the train. Uh oh....I wonder how cold it's gonna be outside? The moment I stepped out the train, the wind was so strong I couldn't even stand straight! It's not just the wind, the COLD, the real COLD was terrible....I was like "Oh man, I dont know how I can stand 3 days of this cold in Beijing." Oh well, we followed the crowd and got out the station (after some luggage delays, once again) and the weather was even worse! It was still dark outside, and the train station looked deserted...and I can't see where the cabs are lined up O_o Joyce and I walked around to look for the taxi stand, while the others huddled close and waited...we couldnt find any! Gladly, a guy approached us and asked if we wanted to rent a van, since there are 9 of us with so many suitcases...so Joyce and I went to check out his van and asked the others to follow. We got in the van after a while and it felt like heaven inside Not that it looks like a limousine or something, but its a lot less cold inside haha Then everyone was amazed when they saw that the driver is a woman She told me that it wasnt that cold the day before, like maybe around 5C...so we're just really unfortunate xD After 10-15 mins ride, we finally got to the hotel - Beijing Taiwan Hotel (I translated it myself ). It was the first time I'd been to this hotel, my dad booked the rooms for us. For the price it offered, the place was actually nice The rooms were clean and okay, with the exception of Valle's and Eric's room. Their's was a lot bigger than ours haha The location was good, it only takes us about 5 mins of walk to get to the WangFuJing pedestrian shopping street and commercial district, its also not very far from The Forbidden City and Tiananmen Square.
We moved in our warm and cozy rooms and some of us just fell asleep... We were all very tired, I suppose..hehe We havent made plans for the day, but we knew we had to start touring, so we dont waste the day. The bellboy told us that it would be nice to go to the Great Wall, before the snow melts away. I inquired at the reservation desk and the lady told me that we might have to rent a van since there are 9 of us, it would be a lot more convenient. The van however was expensive, costs 1000RMB per day. We had a voting whether to go that day, or the next day, and majority decided that we go the next day, so we opted to The Forbidden City instead The fun has just yet to begin hahaha Stay tuned for my next post
Thursday, October 9, 2008 6:13:51 PM
Okay, so I should have written about this a month ago I was just too lazy to put up those photos and talk about it But now, the photos are up, you can see them in my Opera albums (Cebu Trip ) Don't forget to comment if you see something really funny or weird or whatever
Anyway, last September 19-22 2008, my friends together with some committee members went to Cebu City, a beautiful city in central Philippines, to attend an economic convention hosted by the our organization (Young Economists' Convention). Well at first, it does seem that we're gonna be on a "business" trip but quickly, priorities shifted and touring and having fun became the core of the trip Of course, knowing us, we would never waste such an opportunity to make the most fun out of the very short period of time. Really, it was the first time my friends and I were on such a trip outside Manila for almost 4 days It was so much fun! Being with my friends on this trip, not my high school friends, but those from the university, was a whole new experience. They were truly a crazy bunch of people The good kind of crazy, of course My only regret was that I didn't bring along extra clothes on the third day when we went island hopping. I really didn't expect that my friends would go snorkeling in such a windy day, and I missed so much more fun, instead of just standing on the boat watching them have fun. Yes, the waves were high and while we stopped in a certain place to snorkel and swim, the boat (although big) was rocking nonstop...and the news had it that a typhoon was near I freaked out because I couldn't swim, if something happens, I'm doomed I'm glad that we were finally on our way back when the rain hit. I went downstairs and sat on the bench and was fast asleep, until we arrived back to the small port
With this trip, I believe that our friendship has further strengthened. I'd like to think of it as sort of a kind of team building, except that its for academic and not for corporate purposes Had I been in the water with them, this trip would have been even more memorable, although it is already unforgettable My next trip with my friends would be on this December and this time we're going international We're headed to Shanghai, perhaps Suzhou, Nanjing, Hangzhou, and then Beijing First, why the sudden urge to go on trips like this? Well, this one in December was supposed to be another economic conference, but since it is only offered in the curriculum for a certain economic elective course which I had not yet enrolled myself in, I can't join the conference. However, for the sake of my thirst to travel, and to help my friends (since I can speak Mandarin fluently), I decided to join them on this trip and be responsible for all documents, hotel reservations, ticket bookings, etc.
I'll probably put up another post about that trip when things are finalized I'm so excited! hahaha well, now I'm gonna go back to playing Travian a really nice online browser-based strategy game where you build your own village and by all means, keep it alive, which means to protect it from enemies' attacks and expand it Perhaps you all can try it out too www.travian.com (it has servers for different countries, if you do no like being in the international server) I play in the 3rd(Northwestern area) and 5th(Northeastern area) international servers see you there! If you need help, I can give you some very helpful sources,just send me a message
Sunday, February 4, 2007 4:36:15 PM
Today is the worst day of my life.
Why does life have to be so cruel to be? Just when I had lain in front of me my plans for the future, something comes and blocks my way. I saw light ahead me, but when I tried to grab it, destiny locked me up in the dark.
I've dreamed for so long so study in Europe. I've started making plans now in university, so I could prepare myself to apply for the student exchange program. But what? My parents said no. I hate them for that. They are always so bossy. I think all asian parents are like that. That explains why I envy my foreigner friends with parents who are so understanding and lenient. My parents' reason for not allowing me to go is that I'm too young. What the hell? I'm already 17. I'm sure I'm capable of making my own decisions and its not like I'm not going to come back anymore. I avoided conversations regarding this matter and tried to remain silent about it because I know I could find a way to win.
Yesterday when I attended an Economics convention, a brochure was given to me, included in the package of lecture notes and presentations. The title of the brochure was attractive-- Summer abroad. I read it and found out that the program is for 15-18 yr old students who are interested to spend their summer in Europe, Asia, or America for only 2-4 weeks. It is like a study tour, where the students get to live with a host family and take language courses during their stay. I'm sure this would be really fun, so I told my mom. Alright, she read the brochure and asked me "Why are you so desperate to go abroad?" I said, "Because I want to experience something new before I get serious with my university life in the upcoming years." Again, she told me that I am too young and that I can't take care of myself and so on...blablabla I told her my reasons, but she would never listen. She just sticks to her own opinion and that's it. I hate her, I really do.
I can't take it anymore. I walked out and locked myself in the room. I tried not to cry, but tears just came streaming down my cheeks unconsciously. A few minutes later, the phone rang. It was in my room, so I had no choice but to answer the phone. It was my dad. I can't speak, I'm choking. He sound worried and asked me what happened. Slowly, I told him about the program and what my mom said. My dad told me the same reasons as my mom had said why they wouldn't let me go, but he seem more considerate. At least that gave me some hopes up. He said that he would talk about it with my mom and think about it.
I'm praying that God would help me. I hope that even just for this once, my parents would let me make my own decision and understand my being so persistent in going abroad.