Monday, June 15, 2009 4:10:58 AM
We have a tradition to ask for forgiveness before the fast , before the time we want to clean our body and our soul.
We ask to forgive us all around and hope that they will do it.
Maybe it is a good tradition, but I think every person has its own forgiving day, not the common one, but when you feel that you need it and not just follow he tradition.
Many of you knows on their own experience that to forgive a person is much more hard than to ask for forgiveness.
Is it easy to offend other one? Yes. Is it easy to feel hurt? Yes. Is it easy to forgive? No, it is hard.
How to ask for forgiveness?
1.to ask for forgiveness long and hard, covering with tears, and striking your hear over the wall…This method is good when a quarrel is trifle and both understand that this offence will pass fast. This method helps only to funny the suffer side and to return more fast to previous relations.
2.To subomate a person. You do not need to give money to the offended person, just bring something he wanted long ago or make something pleasant to him. Everyone likes attention.
And even if your step will not be accepted at this moment, the first step will be done and your step will be appreciated later.
3.To write a letter or sms. Because it is more easy to write than to say. Your letter will be reread many times and it will help, or may be thrown away not being read…it happens so too.
4.To speak. Maybe it is the most correct way. Tell your arguments, listen to his. Never agree just for pretext . Otherwise you will have new quarrel soon.
5.Just to come and say “forgive me”, to listen to all reproaches (mostly true), to understand the all deep of your mistake and try to correct all.
Who said that to ask for forgiveness is easy? Not everyone can say this small phrase “forgive me” Especially it is hard to say to beloved person. Some persons cannot say it and are upset so deep inside that we even need to comfort them telling that nothing hard happened.
6.To say “sorry,sorry,sorry…”
When somebody feel offence on you and it means nothing to you.Just if you know that you need to ask for forgiveness to make your way more easy. It can work with people who are not too close to your heart. It is the worse way.
7.To be offended yourself. It is a very artful way. You will just wait when the most gentle man will make first steps.
The main thing is really want to want a reconciliation, in this case the needed words will be founded themselves.
I never follow this religious tradition. I think that a necessity to as for forgiveness must come to you itself not just at the day that was done for it.
We all are not scared and need to be forgiven for our sins.
This Sunday was my own “forgiving Sunday”
I ask you all, and everyone personally to forgive me for everything that I did wrong to you.
Some promises not fulfilled, some behavior you did not like, some words that offended you of coursed the quarrel, some time I did not find for you....
I need to repair my broken wings and be able to fly again. I need to feel that I made nothing wrong to people, or just to know that they forgave me.
Forgive me, friends.
Sunshine played games with dewdrops
Shadows touched me as might a stranger
Stranded between the cold sun and colder shadows
I took the suffering of the mountains on my hands
I came to a path with many doors
Each door leading to the past and future
A hand progressed, stopped, with drew
Meant to end, and an end in itself
The end mirrored the beginning
The beginning of forever
Forever was a long eternity
A broke mirror, a broke man
I let you live
I let you cry
I let you laugh
I let you die
And flightless pain
All for nothing, nothing for all
Cut me in two, and took the better half
Yet another sunshine
The world looked the same
The gnawing empty feeling
The very hollow shame