What do they think?
Wednesday, 21. February 2007, 16:00:39
Society has had such a great impact on us that we often forget about our uniqueness, our need to be FREE. We are walking away from ourselves, instead of doing the opposite thing.
We always want to leave a good impression, we want to please our boyfriend/girlfriend, we want to have "success"... We are always dependent on something/someone. We think "What do they think about me?"... "How do I behave in a certain situation?"... "Am I gonna sound stupid if say this?"... "Is s/he going to like what I wear?"...... "Is this right or wrong?" Think outside of the box, there is no right or wrong, those are just man's "intelligent" ways to classify his experience and label something as "society acceptable" or not. Forget what you have been learning in school, your way of being is the right way of being. "Unique" is a keyword here.
Our inner child is always there and it always wanna go outside and play. Let it play!
Actually, if something is considered a waste of time, it definitely is worrying about what others think of you.
from thinkarete:
"Quit Worrying About What Others Think. That’s a big one. Really big. Really really really big. First of all, let’s be clear about one thing: You’re worried about what someone else thinks of you, right? OK. Now, while you’re doing that, what do you think they are
worried about? Hah. Exactly. They’re worried about what you think of them. But you’re so busy worrying about what they think of you that you’re not even spending much time thinking about them. (You follow that?
To be honest, whether or not that’s true all the time is irrelevant (although I do think it’s true most of the time). In any case, if you’re going to live your life dependent on the good opinion of others for your happiness then, uh, I’ll put it to you bluntly: You’re screwed.
There’s NO way you can please everyone all the time. Even someone who wins an election by a landslide still had 30 or 40% of the people who disagreed with her.
Further, and I’d say much much much more importantly, by worrying about what other people think of you and working hard to try to please them, you’re losing the essence of who you are — you’re expressing such a small fraction of who you truly are. That’s not cool.
So, quit worrying about what other people think of you. Pretty please."
By worrying about what others think about us we are conditioning ourselves and limiting our freedom. We can never be free that way, because we are always gonna behave the way somebody else wants us to behave. We have some false assumptions about what other people think about ourselves. They are always false and un-necessary. I will never know what other people think of me by thinking about it. Does it matter what others think of me? Not so much. After all, what's the use of knowing it?
Mark Twain said:
"Dance like nobody's watching; love like you've never been hurt. Sing like nobody's listening; live like it's heaven on earth."
... and I would add: "Write like nobody's reading!"
now, writing this post was such a beautiful waste of time
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